just stop, stop listening stop analyzing stop feeling for them and stop giving them advice. they can’t keep getting away with this.

If you really must, I know it sounds backwards but at least make them pay you. or buy you an expensive meal. even then it’s still a maybe.

my own exceptions are my two family members (only at their wits end). still I remind them that I’m going to start charging them money if they make me do this again instead of finding a professional.

I recently got into a heated argument with a guy I have briefly dated before (I should really cut him off). I called out his behavior and pointed out that he was only interested in being with women for the short term/hookups/flings. Instead of taking accountability and owning up to this, he doubled down and denied it. This guy has has a reputation got being a player and has been posted in those "Are we dating the same guy" FB groups and the Tea app several times.

It's also worth noting that this man is a "Christian" so there is probably a certain level of guilt and moral panic around his choices. From knowing him as long as I do, there is a part of him that doesn't want to be perceived as the "douchy f*ckboy." He is trying to save face and come off as a "gentleman" or a "good Christian man". I think alot of religious men take the fake "good guy" bullshit to a whole other level and delude themselves into thinking they are righteous.

This is just one of many behaviors I have noticed over my life of interacting with men who try and convince others (and themselves) that they are the "good guy". They do not genuinely care about being "good". It's all about the optics - their public image, reputation and how they are perceived. I noticed that they will even go as far as to engage in a gaslighting where they will do horrible things, deny it and claim that you are overreacting and that they are actually the "good guy."

Being a genuinely good and upstanding person requires one to self reflect and take accountability for things. Alot of men do not want to put the work into doing this but will try to uphold a fake "good guy" persona. They are invested in the optics more than being a person of substance.

I have experienced it and seen it with other women who date self proclaimed "good guys" only for them to turn out to be total manipulative assholes. I've seen men delude themselves into thinking they are the "good guy" after lying, abusing, sexually assault and cheating. The cognitive dissonance is astounding and disturbing. And God forbid you say anything that shatters their illusion because they will completely lose their minds. There is no getting around men who operate under this delusion.

It’s a joke, not a dick; don’t take it so hard

what are some less obvious things you noticed that males get praised for that is really the bare minimum?

I'll start:

-smelling good

-not taking up 4 seats on the bus

-opening the door/letting someone go first

-adhering to a budget

-using their indoor voice

-disagreeing with someone politely

Had an on and off again friendship with a man. I actually posted some ss of his bullshit on someone’s post a few days ago.

He asked me what he can do for me to see him again, and offered to pay for my time.

I told him $100/hr is my rate to come to my house and talk to me. (SW for me is 400 for 1hr, more time=better price)

I figured from all the drama he’s been, going forward if he wants my time then he can pay for it. I’m not doing emotional labor for men for free anymore..Fuck that.

He is supposed to come over later for an hour. That will cover my brow wax and tint plus tip.

I love taking money from men. Spending time with a man is only worth it when I am being paid or getting labor from them. I use them like they have historically used women.

I can genuinely say I only know ONE MAN who actually treats me like a person who has equal value to him. Everyone else sucks.

Thank god I am bisexual. I really don’t think I could be in a LTR with a man. Every single man I’ve dated has been a piece of shit in their own way. I came out to my family after an ex was physically assaulting me, and shockingly my dad was more cool, saying idc who you date as long as they treat you well. My mom goes, “don’t let fuckface ruin all men for you,” like ma—what do you mean??? They are ruined already? He can’t ruin men for me—men have repeatedly shown me who they are.

Love this group, thank you goddesses for existing and exposing men and validating our lived experiences. It means a lot to me to have found this community.

What does those responses have to do with what i'm trying to communicat

Why do male victims only matter when we talk about Men in our society and how unsafe they make us feel why is it only talked about by men when women talk about female victims?

Remember when people (ahem-ahem, mostly white men and their supporters) mocked queer people and complained about the bad and scary Wokeness? How they called everyone snowflakes, couldn't care less about anyone's feelings, raged over pronouns and black people in video games? Remember how just a couple of months ago they complained about the God of war series having a woman as a protagonist, or a girl in SH2 being "too fat"? Remember how JUST ABOUT TWO DAYS AGO they celebrated the closing of studio because "go woke, go broke", the just like they cheered for Disney's fails?

Well, guess what. I could bet, I could swear on my life that those are the exact same people who are currently whining about radical feminism and misandry. I bet you they don't care about "true equality". Maybe there are some actual egalitarians in the crowd, but those are typically just people who are too lazy to check for their internal biases. What I am saying is, minorities and women have achieved their ideas slowly spreading in the society by relentless fight. We started talking about sexism thanks to women, we started talking about equality thanks to the woke crowd. Those men didn't start this. However, what are we seeing now? They use the discussion that was started by us, the group of people everyone mocked and hated, to fight for their egos being untouched and unconditionally respected. They literally took the achievements of social justice fights and turned them around to radicalize a bunch of people to the right. Turns out, it's very convenient to complain about injustice when you are "the victim". They mocked people for exactly the same thing that currently benefits them. And honestly, that's just pathetic. And very, very, very convenient and hypocritical

Every woman I know, my sister , my cousin, my friends have had their lives ruined by men. ofcourse they all think its part and parcel of being a woman but its not!! bodies riddled with diseases due to burnout and trauma. being with men also means kids ( which becomes a woman’s responsibility)society has indoctrinated us to think that motherhood , romance and marriage are some utopia on earth where as they are serious responsibilities . I don’t date, i don’t have sex because I dont have energy to deal with trauma sapiens! the amount if energy it takes to deal with men is unbelievable and its also waste of time. invest that energy into your goals and you will get something in return and intangible. men can leave women , leave kids ,do whatever they want but proximity to men for women means motherhood, std, trauma, unpaid labor, abuse , domestic violence, heartbreak and poverty.
its not worth it to deal with men in my opinion.
I will be single forever.

Hey there! A couple days ago, I got dogpiled on by the good and level-headed men of r/ psychologyofsex because I pointed out their hypocrisy in trashing woman-positive studies while blindly embracing studies they deemed to challenge feminism. To the uninitiated, r / psychologyofsex, like many "science-based" subreddits, is a front for men who just want to complain about women not giving them sex or shake their fists at the unfair disadvantages men have in a society that supposedly favors women. It's r/ incel Lite.

In any case, when I pointed out this hypocrisy, I was subsequently called the following:

- ran through

- manly

- pro DV (against men, apparently)

- a misandrist

But one accusation that stood out to me came in the form of a comment that stated: "You must be from that evil woman sub"

At the time, I had no idea what this person was talking about, so I did some digging and it brought me here. All that's to say, while I'm angry about my experience, I'm glad it brought this subreddit to my attention. It seems like a good time, and I'm happy to now be an official member rather than a presumed one.

TLDR: r / psychologyofsex is sexist and this sub seems neat

Excuse me while I go read my collection of sci-fi books featuring a decent matriarchy (without the bs morale of us being just as bad as men, because we are not), all three of them... -_-

Men did not build the world, they destroyed it

I couldn't give two shits about all the things men have "built" when it has come at the cost of women, the environment, and all other life on this earth.

The very thing we live on, they have destroyed. Their capitalism and patriarchy demands heriarchy and exploitation of resources for individual male gain.

Their wars have led to entire areas being irradiated. Their wars have led to entire swathes of natural land being flattened and burnt. Their war industries and chemical fallouts have poisoned the seas. Their obsession with eating meat has led to mass environmental and ecological destruction, whilst knowing they don't need it to survive. They have known about climate change since the Victorian era, but plowed on for their individualistic gain anyway.

We have lost so so so many species of animals and plants entirely due to the human male. Their barring of women and the working class from education means we have missed out on research and conservation opportunities for things that simply don't exist anymore.

They have trapped animals in battery farms to maximise suffering. The deforest entire areas for data centres to generate their child porn. They mine and war for oil, knowing full well how much pollution it causes and how much of a finite resource it is.

All to hoard wealth in a few men at the top.

We are standing on the brink of climate and AI catastrophe. The children born today may very well see the end of the human race, either as we know it, or entirely.

Men did not build the world, they destroyed it.

Did this mf expect a welcome mat?

I just want to write a post about my frustration. this was something I thought about the past year and I want to share it with this thread. everything in the world revolves around men and I’ve had enough of it. I’ll share a few examples. feel free to add in case I miss anything.

1. I saw a post on tiktok last year and a girl complained about how your boyfriend could disrespect, embarrass and cheat on you a million times and you can forgive him every time without fail, but if your best friend calls you out on something once then suddenly you’re sworn enemies. I’ve had a personal experience with this. a few years ago I went on a night out with my former best friend and her boyfriend, he got really drunk and was acting up all night, they got into an argument but made up the next day. but she was mad at me because her boyfriend accused me of saying something bad about him, I assured her I didn’t say it and tried my best to clear up any misunderstanding, but she took his side and she didn’t talk to me for nearly a month (she did this to me a lot, if I did something she didn’t like/if I spoke to someone she didn’t like she would give me the silent treatment for weeks).
2. a man could spread a rumour about a woman saying he/someone he knows slept with her/she did something outrageous in the bedroom with no proof or substance and every man (and some women) would believe him and her reputation could be ruined and a rumour could affect her prospects/relationships. if a woman gets in a relationship with a guy and his ex girlfriend reaches out to her and warns the new girlfriend to be careful, he’s emotionally and/or physically abusive and could send her proof (screenshots of text messages threatening her, pictures of injuries she sustained from him etc.) and the new girlfriend would be hesitant to believe the ex girlfriend and would choose to side with the boyfriend (I’m going to have to ask him, I asked him and he said it’s not true).
3. bisexuality. when a woman says she’s bisexual, everyone accuses her of only saying that because she’s a pick me girl, she wants male attention and validation, she’s actually just straight. when a man says he’s bisexual, everyone accuses him of being gay, he‘s only into men, he’s just in denial about his sexuality. if sexuality was a choice, I guarantee no one would be into men.

so yeah, all roads lead to the patriarchy and I’m sick of it. if I forgot something, please contribute.

believe women.

Forgive me if this isn't allowed. I'm camping and was listening to some men fish just off the shore from my campsite. I was smiling, listening to them celebrate their catch. And one men shouted out, presumably talking to an inexperienced fisher, "Looks like we popped your cherry!" And just like that, reality smacked me in the face.

I feel like most men use women to uphold themselves. Some men use women to help their business succeed and then they leave that same woman for another woman they think is better than the one who built him up. Some men also copy women’s personalities and adopt them as their own, and try to capitalize off of that somehow. I feel like the so-called “successful man” who made it on his own without any help is not only nonsense but they used a lot of women in order to achieve this so called success. 

It explains why so many men who claim to be traditional, alphas and leaders, yet complain and get angry about having to support and provide for women. They’re scammers and only want to harvest women’s energy as opposed to contributing to her betterment and improvement. Men who don’t use women to succeed don’t complain about this. 

What do you ladies think? 

“Divide and conquer” is how men have succeeded in imposing the patriarchy. Think about it, lionesses are always in a pack of at least 2-4. How many cases of violent crimes against women would be reduced if we all as a collective began doing everything in groups of 2-4. (I’m not saying women shouldn’t be able to travel by themselves but I know that when we’re alone we are targeted) Ladies I also believe If we began prioritizing our strength and balance especially in our lower bodies men would target us less. Men want easy targets. This is why the beauty standard for so long has been pedophilic in nature. Men want us weak, malnourished, hairless, small, easy to control, easy to overtake. They would not feel so bold if they were constantly faced with 2-4 strong women that were not afraid to fight back. I don’t just mean in public I mean at home too, we need to normalize women only communes. We need to stop letting men that would never protect us or our rights access to us. Ladies train to fight back, train to protect, carry a gun, pepper spray, a knife and learn to use them properly. Stay active not for aesthetics but for safety. Be a lioness. The matriarchy needs us.

Hello ladies!

I made an intro post yesterday, a meme “good morning ladies and disappointments” and a (male) user decided it was time to tell me how he feels. Dude completely unsolicited was yapping about some g e n d e r war, relishing in what he may do to women if the day came where unrest may occur.

In this comments after that he explained how he “used to be a feminist”. Something about men claiming their allyship, not getting the attention/praise they expect for being on of the “good ones”, and becoming angry, resentful and later down the line completely against what they claim they once stood for.

This is the nice guy trope. It pisses me off like no other. How often does this kind of thing occur here? How do we stop it?

how the fuck did someone even type this sentence out?

I want witch aura. I want that foul malevolant bog hag energy. I want to point fingers at men and have them shriek in terror and fling themselves away from me like they're about to catch fire. I want my vague promises of consequences for their impudence to be taken seriously. I want them to whisper my name behind closed doors and avert their gaze as I walk by. I want to bare my teeth and be met with docile, pants-pissing compliance instead of meatheaded indignant rage. I have spent forever cowering before the stupidest men alive and I have decided I want to start scaring them instead.

So how do I gain Evil Witch Aura?

He stormed into the room (I was already in bed at this point, just putting in my ear plugs), switched on the light, and demanded to know what my problem was, why I felt I had the right to bar him from our bedroom(???), etc etc.

After he chose to reject my reasoning (to reduce noise in the bedroom while he’s still up), he stormed out and slept in the guest room. When he left, he also left the door open, the light on, and his bedside lamp on. I just sat there, a bit dazed, and laughing at the childish absurdity coming from someone in their mid 50s.

Anyway, his birthday is around the corner and I got him a pacifier. I’m also considering diapers and a swaddling blanket. He likes to read though, and I want to encourage this good habit, so I’m open to suggestions of kids books - especially if they have a focus on managing big emotions effectively.

Other (emotional) age appropriate gift suggestions are welcome too!