Does anyone know what these mean?

Ive had this profile for... about a decade. Am I really that ugly?

(46f) Why does it seem like suddenly men (and I’m talking over 40) feel the need to have a shirtless photo on their profile? Do the women all have bikini photos and I’m just missing the memo? Personally I find it just weird… a nice fitted shirt gets the message across just fine.

I'm looking for a liberal, atheist woman who enjoys traveling, drinking wine and eating sushi. Bonus points if she's also doing therapy and loves deep talks. Is bumble a good app to find the needle I'm looking for?

It's kinda crazy to me that you get this much likes in a couple of hours or maybe I'm just not used to dating apps

UPDATE June 4: I finally got through to an actual person! My account had been unblocked. I had to submit like 50 million requests and stuff and I eventually just gave up but I got a random email today.

I've tried to appeal it to literally no avail, just constant bot response. Saying I can't be refunded and that it's final.

I've met so many wonderful people and friends here. I have spent a bit on premium, never had ANY issues with anyone on here.

I opened the app today after not even using it for weeks and it says my account is blocked for "selling sexual services and content. "

I've never even had a hookup in my life, nor would I EVER sell my body or pictures of myself. I had 0 advertisements or sexual conversations.

I haven't even hugged or kissed anyone since December 2025 lol.

And as of recent, I haven't even been on the app because I've been going on dates with ONE guy. Whom I haven't even kissed or touched or anything. I have never asked for money for anything.

I went to look at his profile again, and was hit with this.

My profile even stated that I haven't done any hookups and don't intend to.

I am 23F, and no sexual or provocative pictures. This was my bio:

"emo alternative bands and video games🌱 I've never drank, smoked, done drugs, had a hookup, or partied, etc. I intend to keep it that way.

I'm very much a homebody🫪

I'm currently learning to drive.

I mainly play games on PC/Steam.

I like nerd stuff, Ren fairs, DND, museums, aquariums, etc. 🌱"

I can only assume this is because some man was mad I didn't respond after I started going on dates with the one guy. I've had guys suspicious that I was a scammer or bot and were relieved to hear a female voice on the phone. I also barely talked a lot on there other than video games and stuff. Never had any issues. Sucks unfortunately as I haven't had any good matches on other apps.

I don't know how to contact an actual person or if that's even a thing anymore, they probably replaced everyone with AI.

Firstly let’s start out with the obvious, I’m not transphobic. I am just not romantically attracted to the same biological gender. I am a heteroromantic pansexual to be precise.

Recently, I keep getting likes from trans women, I don’t know whether it’s something they’ve changed in their algorithm, but I don’t seem to be able to filter them out.

I’ll get a like and then swipe through trying to find them but can’t, so I end up buying premium because my curiosity gets the better of me and it’s a trans women I do not have any interest in dating.

This is the 5th time in a row this exact thing has happened to me, and this never happened before.

Is there anything I can do?

On Hinge people seem out of my league, all of the photos are skiing, snowboarding or other equestrian rich people sports. I have been on the app for since March of this year and have some likes and some matches, maybe 1-2 every 2 weeks. But all of the profiles I get shown are all attractive people. And all of the matches I get seem to ghost me after 1-2 messages or after matching, I have only had 2-3 real conversations that did not lead to a date or anything, they just ghosted me.

I do not consider myself that attractive at all either, I am mid at best I am just a bit tall and that is it (6'4"). How come the app is not showing people within my own league.

Nearly universal tips for guys who want more dates
Not a dating coach and not selling anything. I just see a lot of “what am I doing wrong?” posts from men and figured I’d share what actually moved the needle for me from seeing patterns that held me back.

2021–2022: maybe 1 match a month. Little results outside, definitionally an incel.

After tightening the basics in late 2022 to now: Can get 1–3 dates a week (depending on how hard I screened and whether I was doing date 2 or focusing on one gitl). That led to a 2.5+ year relationship / brief engagement that ended late last year (relocation and other misalignment). Now back on the apps with a solid stream again. Most of my dates still come from apps.

1. Looks
Looks aren’t everything, but they matter a lot, especially on apps. I’m not talking bonesmashing or 7 surgeries. Start with the basics: get leaner (roughly 10–15% body fat) with some muscle, handle balding (shave or transplant), skincare, teeth, facial hair that actually works for your face. That alone pulls a lot of guys out of the hole. If there’s a real deformity (very crooked nose, very recessed chin, etc.), surgery can help, but fix the basics first.

2. Picture quality is about the story, not the camera.
Avoid selfies except maybe one if the rest of the photos are strong enough to prove you’re real. Don’t look stiff or posed. Shirtless pics only if fairly fit and not posed. Clear quality and good angles are key.

Ex. Don’t stand there holding a drink. Grab the drink, drink it like the camera isn’t there, and have someone snap it.

3. Each photo should show a different version of you.
Lead with a clear face photo where you look your best. Then: a hobby shot (cooking a steak, piano, lifting), friends (don’t be the shortest or least attractive guy in the group), a candid with a pet, etc. If every photo is the same vibe, you’re wasting prime real estate to show a full picture of who you are.

4. Let the bio screen for you.
Not in the “no fat chicks” meme way. Think about the woman you actually want and lean into that. I’m a Christian, left-leaning, active, like to travel, work in business, and like to cook.

I show that in the bio and photos. Could I get more matches if I left some of it out? Probably. I’d rather have 2 dates with women who actually like who I am than 5 lukewarm ones.

5. Stop playing it too safe in messages.
Biggest mistake I made early on: staying in platonic interview mode because I was scared she’d unmatch if I flirted or was direct. That’s the point.

Flirting screens out lukewarm matches and builds attraction with the ones who are actually into you. They usually flirt back and show up to the date more eager. (Not talking about being sketchy, gross or sending dick pics.)

6. Don’t become a texting buddy.
A lot of people have notifications off. Get off the app early so momentum doesn’t die. Build a little rapport, confirm you’re looking for similar things (if you’re dating intentionally and she’s mostly looking for friends, you’ll waste time), get a flirty back-and-forth going, then seed the date. I usually try to ask her out within the first day of texting if replies aren’t crawling. Example: grab the number Monday, some back-and-forth, ask her out Tuesday, go out Thursday.

7. Start the date on good ground.
If looks, profile, and texting were solid, you should already have some goodwill where she goes into the date attracted and even eager vs “not sure if i like him yet.

From there, start it on a confident note: I greet her, hug, maybe whisper “someone looks cuter in person,” then offer my arm walking in. Sit next to each other or at a 90-degree angle, not across a table where your fingertips barely reach, specially if a louder spot where you have to almost scream.

8. Mix connection and escalation.
Alternate real get-to-know-you questions with humor, flirt, light touch, and some escalation. The date has two jobs: see if you actually vibe and move things forward romantically. Only do the first and you get “had a blast but no spark, wish you the best.” Only do the second and you don’t build anything unless you’re strictly chasing casual.

Hope this helps.

I used the app years ago and decided to reinstall it this week. Have some matches but I’m a bit confused about the conversation now, any of the two can start in the 72 hours, right?

Is it now expected that men start it instead of the previous way of necessarily women having to start the conversation? (Asking as a straight, cis male).

Has any guy here with a job that points to one making substantial money stopped including their job title in their profile ?
The thing is, I regularly get likes from SW / high maintenance profiles, some women in Asia / Africa.
I think it’s either of 3 factors: major rich swiss city location, a pic of me in an expensive suit (this pic performs exceptionally well on hinge), or my job title.
I have zero pics with my car or any other item pointing towards wealth. In fact I removed all of those since I noticed it attracts only likes from said profiles.

Yea so I'm out of men within 40 miles of me. Am I screwed?

Just came back to Bumble after 4 year break. As a man, I noticed that you can now message women first on the app.

what are other men's experiences with this? how often do women still send the first message?

I’m F and every time I have a conversation with a guy, I never know what kind of compliments men like or how to show interest over text. Would like genuine feedback I don’t want to sound too weird or clingy. I’m not really good with this type of thing and sometimes my texts are very to the point and dry! Can you help me.

What kind of messages do men appreciate. I also feel like I tend to try match energy and even if I am interested I kinds of pull away to not freak them out.

So I swiped right on my good friend today. And we decided to hang out tonight and went out to dinner. At dinner she pulled up Bumble (after I’d told her I’d swiped right on her to support her) and my profile came up. She swiped right and we matched. But we… didn’t. We both witnessed the “You Matched” screen with our profile pics together. But we didn’t show up in each other’s match queue. It was as if it never happened. We ate dinner discussing how fucked up that was.

So how many matches do you get that Bumble doesn’t let you have? I smell a class action lawsuit.

I have had my Bumble account for many years, I have made many matches and have met many people from all walks of life. Some I have engaged in conversation and continued off platform as expected. I have never had any issues, no provocative pictures or crude content on the platform, upheld all of the rules and picture requirements. In fact I have only recently returned to Bumble after being away from the platform for nearly a year.

On return I made a match and we continued talking off platform, we talked for about 2 weeks and by that point I did not have any connection or attraction to the person so I informed her and we mutually split ways. The next day I go onto Bumble to find my account had been fully blocked. I have attempted an appeal and received determination that they will uphold the account due to "Reports made against my account". I am in full belief that it was from the individual I was speaking to after I ended things and the appeal content has further lead me to believe that this is the truth.

I am wondering how the determination for bans is so one sides on the platform? I have ensured to follow every rule with my only crime to Bumble being that I have not purchased their premium tier or boosts. Has anyone else had any success in a successful appeal or getting in touch with someone to figure out how to get access to the account after being banned?

I can’t see who likes me without paying so how does this work? Do I just leave it up to god that someone I swiped right on will swipe right on me? Seems kind of pointless?

Been on bumble for a while. My profile is very clear about what I want. Went on many dates. So far severely dissapointed.
Can’t really get myself to put in effort texting back. 🤷

Inb4 lobster to buttery

So over the apps and my inbox is usually full but no longing conversations is there anyone not shallow anymore?

I average about one date a week off of Hinge, but since June, I've only been swiped back on ONCE from Bumble. I do get an ok number of "likes" but no one ever matches with me. And I did have one person like me and message me back when only women were allowed to do so.

It just seems like the app is set up really badly. Unlimited swipes and you can't leave notes to someone unless you pay an absurd amount of money. I'm pretty avg looking and my Hinge success is entirely due to me being able to leave quality notes/messages. On Bumble, it feels like your looks are all that matter?

She doesn't seem interested people !!!

I'm looking for a man that's not about drama, who doesn't take himself too seriously and likes to go with the flow. Preferably balding, in his 30s to 40s, but still trying to figure things out.

Fluency is sarcasm is a MUST!

My type of guy has pictures of himself wearing a button up with a drink in his hand; that shows me he's mellow and knows how to relax. Or he's on a boat holding a fish, which of course shows he's adventurous! A loving man takes pictures with their pet or baby niece so I need that too. Most of all, I want a man confident enough to take a shirtless pic of him flexing in a dirty bathroom mirror. Can Bumble offer all of that for me?!