r/Dogtraining • u/Opening-Trouble389 • 52m ago
discussion I feel like a terrible dog mom
My GSD is recently 1 yrs old and is a very reactive dog. He’s never bitten anyone but barks, hair on his back stands up, etc. He’s very protective to the point we’ve had to take him to training. During this training I’ve had to be very hard on him to take over the role he’s taken upon himself to have. Essentially over-dominating him. During our training course we’ve gotten a prong collar and DOES NOT hurt him and I work with him multiple times a day. Although we’ve seen tremendous progress when people approach and try to touch or pet him he doesn’t listen, won’t take treats from them, becomes very stressed, etc. He does this outside the house as well. He’s very scared all the time at everything. I’ve tried to desensitize him but am not sure how to do it without traumatizing him. Our trainer recently has told me to step up and “be the alpha”, She instructed me to step on his leash essentially right by where it connects to the collar to make him lay down when he doesn’t listen since it’s a submissive command and he’s doing it selectively. Today we were working on it in the neighborhood and he ran from me when I went to put my foot on the leash because he wasn’t laying. I have never seriously hurt him and do not wish to. Ever. But seeing him run from me makes me wonder if he’s scared or doesn’t like to be over-dominated? I feel like a mean mom to him because I’m strict compared to his grandparents. But he has to learn right? Especially if I want to take him out to other places with dogs and people. I hate muzzling him when I have to and I hate being ‘mean’ to correct him or make him listen. I guess I’m wondering if this is normal or if I need to try different approaches? He’s testing limits lately and not listening inside the house without the collar. But he is a really good dog overall just taking on the wrong roles. Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated!