r/Straycats • u/AlternativeOld4426 • 13h ago
I Found a Cat (Location) Took in stray neighborhood cat, she's driving me crazy
Located in San Antonio, TX, USA. About 2.5 weeks ago, I took in a stray cat from outside my apartment complex after feeding her occasionally for a few months whenever I saw her around my building. She was very friendly and liked to be pet, and she looked a little dirty but otherwise very healthy. She was often outside in 100+ degree weather without water and looked sad/tired. When I finally had an opportunity, I trapped her and brought her into my apartment. She was very stressed at first but eventually calmed down, hiding under my bed for a while. I have regularly checked neighborhood posts, but there isn't a single post or poster looking for her.
I bought her all of the essentials and kept her in a smaller section of the apartment while still giving her enough space. She was alright at first, keeping to herself and not causing any issues. She was eating and drinking normally and using the litter box for all of her business. She hid a lot but would sometimes come out and eventually started wandering around the little area. She would come when I called her and is very friendly and social. She loves to be pet and brushed and is content being on my bed or on cat furniture. I have a vet visit scheduled soon. She doesn't appear to have any fleas, and her tipped ear makes me assume she is spayed.
There is also an older female cat in the house, separated in another room. They have not met, and the older cat is very chill and small and barely does anything at all. I have let the stray into the living room a few times, but she either seems terrified to venture out or just stands at the window and screams.
A few issues have come up. The main one is that she will not stop yowling/crying. Initially, it was only at night, but she would make noise throughout the entire night, every single night. I have been ignoring the cries and using earplugs, but it is starting to drive me a little crazy. I noticed that the windows seemed to make her louder, and the other night she started trying to climb my bedroom blinds after looking outside. That was when I decided to restrict her window access. She did like Cat TV, but recently I have also had to block her access to my room because of the bathroom issues below.
The second issue is the peeing. I have seen that a UTI is a possibility, but she doesn't appear to be in pain and seems more nervous/anxious. I have been coming home to pee on the bed, and she has even peed on it while I'm around or near the room. She also pees in the litter box and was using it normally at first. I have been cleaning the mattress/bedsheets thoroughly with enzyme-based pet cleaner, but it keeps happening.
I initially assumed it was a health issue or anxiety, but the other day I came back from a 1-day road trip to find that she had also pooped neatly at the edge of the bed. She poops in the litter box as well. I have tried changing between pellets and softer litter, but she would still pee on the bed. Since blocking her out of my room, she doesn't seem to be peeing or pooping elsewhere, but the yowling has gotten much worse.
She now yowls day and night. During the day, she typically stops if I am petting her or in the room with her, but it gets much worse when I leave. At night, it doesn't seem to matter whether I'm there or not. She yowls nonstop, even though I've been ignoring her.
Finally, she is not aggressive or feral at all and seems very socialized and sweet, but I have had some minor issues with scratching and nipping. She tends to do this when she gets overstimulated from petting, but she also pushes herself into my body/hand and aggressively demands to be pet whenever I am near her. Then she gets upset but still demands more pets. She has also randomly swatted at me (without claws) and even hit me in the head really hard out of nowhere. She seems mad that I am moving around or not petting her, or possibly she is just being playful. She is occasionally playful but is typically more focused on being touched or getting food. She is very food driven.
I am just not entirely sure what to do with her. I have seen online that being patient is all I can do, but I'm not sure if it will get better. I am at work most of the day and out most weekends, so I have limited time to spend with her. I really just would like the yowling and the bed peeing/pooping to stop. Any other issues I can definitely deal with.
Is there any advice for dealing with a cat like this, or am I just not equipped to make her happy? Would it be best to let her back outside, or should I just be patient with her? She seems to like it inside but also seems like she really wants to be outside, and I just want her to be safe and happy.
TL;DR: Took in a social/friendly stray 2.5 weeks ago. She now yowls nonstop and pees/poops on my bed. Blocking bedroom access helped with the mess but worsened the crying. Vet visit is scheduled. Does she need more time, or am I not equipped to make her happy indoors?