My mom died June 7, 2026, after battling ALS. She and my stepdad were married for over 35 years. Four months later, I’m still grieving her every day.

Recently, at my daughter’s birthday celebration, he made a comment that made me wonder whether he was seeing someone. I brushed it off.

Tuesday night, he texted asking to meet for lunch. I asked if everything was okay, and he said yes. Around 3 a.m. Wednesday, I woke up convinced he was going to tell me he was dating someone.

That afternoon, I texted and asked. He immediately called and said, “Well, what if I am?”

I said I knew that conversation would happen eventually, but I’d imagined it closer to a year later. I acknowledged everyone grieves differently and I don’t know what it’s like to be in his shoes.

Then he said I knew the woman and told me to guess.

That’s when it hit me: Roxanne.

He cheated on my mother with her in 2021 and again in 2023. His infidelity goes back to the late ’90s, although not all of it involved her. In 2023, I confronted him and told him enough was enough.

My stepdad is also a pastor. He counsels other people on their marriages.

When he confirmed it was Roxanne, I was stunned. She knowingly participated in an affair that caused my mother tremendous pain. My mom specifically told him she never wanted him speaking to her again.

I asked when they reconnected. He said late June or early July, roughly three weeks after my mom died. Now I wonder whether they ever stopped talking, although I have no proof.

He said my mother forgave him before she died. She told me that, too. But he also claimed she would be okay with him dating Roxanne. That contradicts everything my mother ever told me about her.

I reread my mom’s texts from 2023 and remembered her heartbreak. Forgiving him for cheating does not mean she approved of a future relationship with his affair partner.
I called my mom’s best friend, whom she confided in about his affairs. Before I named anyone, she said, “It better not be Roxanne.” She was shocked when I confirmed it. I asked whether my mom would have been okay with it, and she said absolutely not.

I know I cannot control who he dates. But I can decide who I welcome into my home and around my children. I told him I disagree with this relationship and Roxanne is not welcome at events or holidays I host.

Then I learned he declined our family Thanksgiving, which my brother and his partner are also attending, because he’s going to Roxanne’s family Thanksgiving instead.

I’m furious. I’m grieving my mom while feeling like someone who hurt her is being welcomed into her place. Part of me wants to tell everyone because I’m tired of protecting his reputation, especially as a pastor.
AITA for telling him his former mistress isn’t welcome in my home or at family celebrations I host?

I (24F) have been with my boyfriend (23M, turning 24 next week) for four years.

Two years ago, his sister almost died during surgery. I was the one who got her into one of the best hospitals in our city through a friend, and most of her treatment was covered because of it. On top of that, I covered her job at his family's restaurant during the day and then went to my own job after, working 14 to 16 hours a day while he just did his normal 6-hour shift. And I still made time for him.

Now here's where I might be the asshole. My dad has cancer. Because of his treatment, I've taken on extra responsibilities at my family's company, covering part of my dad's workload. My boyfriend knows this. And instead of supporting me, he started a fight because I take too long to reply to his messages. Sometimes up to four or five hours, because I'm working. Accounting, invoices, orders, shipments. Meanwhile, he just serves food at his family's restaurant.

He said I wasn't putting enough effort into the relationship and that it doesn't take two minutes to answer a text. That's when I snapped. I called him a little bitch and told him he's selfish, because my dad has cancer and all I've gotten from him is him being needy.

And honestly, it's not just him. His whole family knows doctors. They never offered help for my dad. Not once. I don't need it, I'm fully capable of handling it with my own family. But I moved heaven and earth for his sister, and they can't even offer a phone number for mine.

I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. He started crying and begged me not to break up. My sister says I did the right thing. My mom says I went too far.

So, AITA?

I (35F) and my bf (45M) have had a pretty great relationship for 2years now. He was my best friend, my partner, and someone who I genuinely trusted with my whole heart. 2 days ago, one of my girl friends texted me screenshots of him DMing another girl. He was replying to her Stories. She never replied (bc she thought he was creepy). He said things like “so sexy” “I’m in Korea, let’s meet up” “looking foxy” “I love your s line” “wow. Can I have a dance?” “Yummy” “let’s play poker and grab some food” “I hate small talk too. Let’s get nerdy :) let’s meet up” “so yummy” “wow” “let’s go to Hawaii together”.

So I see all these screenshots…. And I’m matching up the dates. Some of the dates when he’s DMing her are when we are spending the day together and he’s literally sitting at my house. Another one where he is asking her to hang out with him in Korea, he’s literally in Korea sitting across from me. And the one that kills me…. Is the one where I invited him to my hometown and hosted him for the week, to which he texted me and thanked me for a wonderful time saying it was one of the best memories…..and then turns around and DMs her to meet up. There was even one that was on OUR 1year anniversary where I took him out to sushi omakaze and we took pictures together, and that day he is DMing her “do you have a boyfriend?”

I am so devastated and hurt and I just don’t understand how someone I loved and who seemingly cared about me and wanted to spend time with me could just turn around and do this. I don’t recognize the man in the texts. And I am so ashamed of being taken for a fool. That I am an idiot for not seeing this sooner.

So prior to this, he had won some money from me in bets. We like to bet each other stupid things like on tennis matches, golf, presidential elections, hi card low card, etc. We kept a running tally (I actually never won once). Anyways, I had lost a substantial amount to him (5 figures), and he kept it with me to invest for him because that’s my job, which I did. I earned him 25% return and paid him out on it. We were partners I thought, and even if we eventually didn’t work out as a couple, at least we had enough respect for each other, personally and professionally to still be best friends and work together.

But now after discovering these texts, I am so hurt I don’t know what to do or how to confront him about this. He is in Korea and doesn’t know I know yet. These texts have been going on the ENTIRE time of our 2yr relationship. To be clear, she never responded to a single one of his DMs and blocked him immediately after she found out about me 2 days ago. I already know what he’s going to say when I confront him - “nothing happened. As you can see in the texts, she never responded so I never met up with her. Therefore, I never cheated on you. Nothing happened.”

That will be his response because something similar happened when I caught him messaging my friend on a dating app and she reported it to me. He said “look at the conversation. I never once asked for her number. I never met up with her. I didn’t sleep with her. I didn’t say anything to her that I wouldn’t say to another girl at a bar”

So I am thinking about reneging on all the money he won from me on the bets. Because those were bets made in an exclusive relationship and he violated that trust DMing another girl (only one that I know of, probably more). It is a substantial amount of money. He did win and I am an honest person and I do not believe in reneging. However he hurt me so badly and betrayed my trust. I am more sad than mad at this point, and I want to hurt him as badly as he hurt me. I feel embarrassed, humiliated, betrayed, and stupid to have trusted and given so much to this man who I loved - not just talking about time and affection and care, but also expensive trips, resorts, Rolex birthday presents, courtside bball tickets, etc.

So AITA for reneging and keeping the money that he won from me and not squaring up the bets? I already paid him out the 25% I earned for him on top.

​I need an outside perspective because I feel like I'm losing my mind and completely burnt out.

​My husband and I have been married for 13 years. Throughout our marriage, I have consistently prioritized his career. I’ve agreed to every move he’s wanted to make to support his job trajectory. Now, I’ve finally found a business venture I’m passionate about and want to start, but when I brought it up, he acted annoyed and isn’t willing to make any changes to accommodate me anytime soon.

​Here is what my daily reality looks like:

​Work & Income: I work from home and make more money than my husband.

​Childcare: We have two kids. Our 5-year-old daughter is profoundly disabled—she is blind, non-verbal, non-ambulatory (cannot walk, stand, crawl, or get dressed), and will require total care and diapers for life. We also have an 8-month-old baby. We have part-time care, but because of gaps, I wind up watching both girls during my official work hours. To make up for it, I end up working late into the night and on weekends.

​Household & Side Business: I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning, take care of our dogs, and completely manage a tiny house Airbnb we run. I get up before his work and make his breakfast and prep his lunch. Then I clean and start my job. I tend to the girls as they wake up. Then I usually have hell for 5 hours a day.

​His Schedule: He works a rotating schedule. On the days he works, he is out of the house for nearly 14 hours.

​I feel like I am running a marathon every single day carrying the mental, physical, and financial load of this family. When I realized I wanted something of my own (this business) and was met with zero support or willingness to adjust, something snapped.

Please note that he's not lazy. He will do anything if asked. Literally anything.The problem is, he will only be productive if asked.

I brought up divorce/couples counseling, and his response was just to get angry with me rather than addressing the core issues.

​I’m struggling to figure out if I’m missing something or if I am justified in feeling like this marriage has become completely one-sided. How do I navigate this? Has anyone been in a similar situation with a high-needs child and an unsupportive partner?

I (F) was out at a club the other night with a group of friends when I saw one of my friends, who I'll call D, kissing a guy, who I'll call C. The problem is that C has a girlfriend, and D knew this before the night out because she had been told about it beforehand.
When I saw them kissing, I took a photo and sent it to C's girlfriend because I felt she deserved to know what was happening behind her back. At the time, I genuinely thought I was doing the right thing, but I'm now being told that I involved myself in something that wasn't my business.
D is now claiming that she didn't know C had a girlfriend, despite having been explicitly told beforehand. This is especially frustrating because D has a history of getting involved with people who are already in relationships. This isn't the first time she's kissed someone who was taken, and honestly, it feels like she gets some sort of enjoyment out of it.
Everyone else who was out with us that night agreed with me and thought I was right to tell C's girlfriend. Since then, C has been kicked out of our friend group, while D has taken absolutely no responsibility for her actions and is acting as though she did nothing wrong.
Things have also become more complicated because D is now ghosting me after I called her out about something else that happened that night.
At one point during the night, D tried to kiss me. I said no and moved away from her, but she then grabbed my face and tried to force a kiss on me again. In doing so, she hit my nose, which caused it to bleed for around 30 minutes.
I went to the women's bathroom to deal with the bleeding and texted and called D, asking her to come and help me, but she ignored me. I didn't feel comfortable asking anyone else in our group for help because they were all guys and I was alone in the women's bathroom.
I feel especially hurt that D ignored me when I was injured, particularly after she had just tried to force herself on me despite me making it clear that I didn't want to kiss her.
Now she's avoiding me entirely, and I'm left wondering whether I was wrong to expose what she and C were doing or whether she's just upset that she's finally being held accountable for her actions.
I understand that some people think you shouldn't get involved in other people's relationships, but I feel like C's girlfriend deserved to know the truth. I also don't think D should get a free pass for knowingly kissing someone who was in a relationship, especially given her history and what happened between us that same night.
Please give me advice and guidance on this as I’m currently feeling lost.

For some context my mom and aunt are 16 yrs apart down to the second, so my brothers and I were raised calling her our sister. There's 9 years age difference between my aunt and I. She has 8 kids, 3 under the age of 18, and they live in my parents' house next-door.

Well my husband and I moved into my uncle's home almost 3 years ago he has CP, the house is a fixer-uppe, and my parents moved in with us. Both houses need extensive work so the plan was we all live together, fix up the houses and they move back over (side by side attached) or rent it out. That never happened, my aunt moved in with her 3 youngest and their crazy amount of pets. We have been through this with my aunt since her oldest was 2, they come up from another state claimingthey are moving here to be closeto ua, stay a while, never get established, and leave.

The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when I was 21, my aunt, grandmother, and then 5 cousins moved up and stayed a few months, before packing up and leaving while my parents were at work! I just found out because my then fiance (now ex) and I came to visit my younger brother that day. He lived in our current residence. I rushed to my parents' job and told my mom everything! I then called my younger brother crying I was so upset. He then told me "Blood doesn't make them family, it makes them relatives."

We have gone through this several more times with my aunt the most recent was almost 2 yrs ago. Well now they are back, and no one appreciates anything we do for them. I have kept my distance as I did in the past because I don't want to get attached to kids old enough to be mine, that doesn't mean I don't try to take the kids out or do things for them, they just don't appreciate it! They don't take care of anything we give them, and they act like we are made of money. We're not we buy what we can in bulk and sometimes buy extra when we catch things on sale. Recently we bout the youngest daughter personal items and she let the dogs eat them twice. The ones I buy are not cheap, and my mom bought her the same ones less than a month ago. However, my husband takes care of a handicapped friend in our home he works from the time he gets up until he goes to bed, and the kids are homeschooling so up all hours of the night making noise which keeps us up. I babysit 3 days a week mostly afternoon and with both kids being neurodivergent and taking care of two full grown dogs, we need our sleep!

Still my mom uses rhe excuse "but they are family" anytime we try to address these issues calmly.

So wibta if I told my mom that due to all of this my aunt and cousins aren't family they are relatives?

I (26F) have been best friends with Lila (26F) since high school. She recently asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding next spring, and I was excited at first.

Then she told me all her rules. She said I need to lose some weight before the wedding to fit the dress she picked. She also told me I can’t bring my long-term boyfriend to the reception, because she wants all bridesmaids to focus on her. On top of that, I have to pay for hair, makeup and the dress myself.

I felt really uncomfortable. I told her I love her, but I can’t agree to these terms. I offered to come as a regular guest and bring my boyfriend.

Lila got upset. She said bridesmaids make sacrifices for the bride, and I’m selfish for not putting her special day first. She thinks I’m ruining our friendship over small demands. Now our mutual friends are messaging me, saying I’m overreacting.

I don’t want to body-shame myself or skip my partner for her wedding, but I feel guilty. AITA?

Basically what the title says, I(19f) shut down after my sister(27f) and partner(18m) played a prank on me.
I know i shouldn’t be posting my own business out there but I feel like this subreddit could be of help to me. I have to post on a throwaway account because of my friends and family linger on the internet, so they are familiar with my account.

Some background information, me and my partner have been going through some stuff throughout our relationship. It’s a common occurrence, but we make it work, or so I thought. There are multiple people in the household such as my younger siblings and older siblings.

I love my partner, I truly do, they are the light of my life and they mean the most to me. I really do, I try not to get too sensitive or stressed out over things so that they don’t feel burdened. I need reassurance for many things that people would have arguments for, my partner has stated we shouldn’t have to worry about those little things yet to me it does.

In past, I’d shut down and not speak to them for 1-2 days before addressing it or threaten to leave. I am no saint either but I need to know where I mess up and how to fix it and take accountability.

However, earlier this evening there was an event. I was gonna go get dessert again since it was one of my favorite, as I reached the fridge. I had placed my phone on the counter beside the table at the same time I was also on a call with my partner. During this, my sister(27f) had asked whom was I on the call with since I had a tendency to video chat with friends within the house. I replied “With my partner?” My sister(27f) tend proceeds to say another person’s name. I told my sister to knock it off, but my partner wasn’t taking it lightly.

Then my younger sister(13f) made some dumb comment about how funny would it be if my relationship ended because of my sister’s joke(27f). My partner then started acting uncomfortable with my elder sister jokes reasonably so, as my sister(27f) shouted in the background that she was only doing it to rage bait me. I found the joke stupid, but I returned to my room to doomscroll with my partner on call.

My partner began to act suspicious of me, when I didn’t respond to the question that they’d ask. Said question was the name that my sister(27f) had said. and I began to panic because i couldn’t say anything in defense, I was scared to lose my partner because of a fucked up joke that my elder sister had said.

I kept asking them if they seriously believed my elder sister’s joke, but they said that it was messed up to joke about something like that. I wanted to ask if they would want to have the passwords to my social media account to reassure them that i wasn’t cheating, but I was cut off when my partner said I should say the truth.

After some more discussion how concerning it was that my elder sister had mentioned some else’s name. My partner began saying how would I respond if someone had said that same prank on him but with the name of his ex’s, I told him that I wouldn’t believe that person if they had something for that because I fully trust my partner. Then my partner revealed that he was playing on with the prank that my sister did. However my partner said I “shouldn’t runaway from my problems”, but I don’t want to deal with this situation. I started to cry, but I tried to hold my tears back after I told my partner that I would go to sleep early to address the situation better. My partner started panicking that he was only messing around and didn’t mean to be a jerk about it.

Currently I’m ignoring my partner’s calls, I only responded to him asking for some time alone. My sister said I was being a big baby and being a jerk for ignoring my partner.

Sorry for my typos, or poor communication skills. I’m not proficient in English as it is my second language, and I am not from the U.S

My boyfriend (24m) and I (21f) have been together for a little over a year. We moved in together a few months ago and it’s been nice. We’ve had our fair share of arguments, but i feel like we always bounce back. Basically he has two major exes that i know about and naturally i looked them up to see what they look like (is that normal i thought it was lol). I never went to say anything to either of them or start issues i simply wanted to see. me and and my friend were gossiping the other night and one of us between passing the phone, back and forth mustve followed the girl. The problem is I didn’t notice till the next morning when she followed me back. Now i was stressing because I know how weird this looks and i would never do this on purpose. I could unfollow but she followed me so i just left it be because i thought that would look weirder but I didn’t tell my boyfriend.

Now a few nights after the follow he was showing me something on his phone, and i saw her notification come up. My mind went to the worst becuase he said that he never speaks to her so yes i did the childish petty thing and posted a pic of me in his car for her too see (yes i know its childish okay lets move on) so she obviously saw it. so that was maybe two or 3 days ago i asked him about the message and he said she sent him a video on tiktok and he never replied. anyways fast forward to today i saw he blocked me on instagram which is weird because we never even followed each other then when i saw him later on he asked me why i followed her on instagram and he BLEW up at me i mean he was pissed. so i told him it was an accident and he asked why i was stalking her page in the first place he was just being overall mean and harsh about it. he even knew what i posted so she’d know i was with him and i was basically saying i dont think its that big a deal if u guys arent talking anyway.

he just kept saying i shouldnt have been on her page in the first place but like lets not act like we havent all been there. he said any problems that come from this with her is on me but then i asked again why would it be an issue if you guys dont talk lol. he basically said im a weird pos what do you guys think I obviously have to take some accountability for following that was so dumb of me but is it a big deal if everything they had is in the past?

I (W)(25)female got married in January to (T) (21) male and now I want a divorce. I am also 5 months post partum. T thinks we haven’t really tried to fix the marriage and that I owe it to us and our baby to try again. The marriage has been emotionally draining, emotionally abusive. I have post partum depression and was hospitalized. He didn’t treat me go during pregnancy or after. I kicked him out and told him I wanted a divorce. Am I the a- hole to want a divorce and not give him second or third chance. P.S we were in therapy.

I (24F) have a friend, M(24F), and I think I can't be her friend anymore. I think it has been a lot of little things that have crossed lines for me and I am starting to realize months later

One time, we were going to a party & M made a comment about splitting costs for the entry so that we could pay less or in case someone needed more than that (writing my name in parenthesis). I had told her I got paid from my internship, what didn't sit too well with me was being put on the spot.

M set me up with one of her friends, N(23M), and we dated for two months. Long story short, N manipulated me into thinking he wanted a relationship when he never had the genuine intention of it. N ended things through text randomly, saying he didn't want a relationship and needed to be single, and M knew he was going to do it. At that point N had met family, spent a lot of time with my friends (and he knows how important my family and friends are to me). M told me she had gone off on him about accountability and doing the right thing. M told me N told her he had 2 friends with benefits (which he lied to me about) and that I knew this (I didnt). M was furious with N and told me she didn't know how to manage her friendship with him. I told her I wasnt going to tell her how to manage her relationships, but I needed distance from him. M hung out with me often but it died down as she started spending more time with him.

M was inpatient at a psychiatric facility and I found out through N, as he was her emergency contact and she had blocked everyone else, including me. N and I had not spoken in a few weeks so this was shocking, but I could separate us from this. To my dismay, N and I have continued to have classes together (same program too). I noticed that whenever something happened between me and N, M would randomly ask me about him in an indirect way but that would lead to me giving her information from my side. For example, after the very first class we had together M asked me "How was class?", I said "It was fine! Really excited to learn about (X)", she said "That's great, I heard you had class with N, how was that?". N also told M I was on birth control which was weird to me as I had only told him. I tried keeping things cordial with N for M. I planned a surprise for her on her birthday with him, made her a tiramisu from scratch and made her a watercolor painting that she loved. Other people (that I barely knew) also knew about the situation (from either M, N, or both imo, not me) and they would ask about it whenever I would go to parties, and I stopped going out with them to avoid comments (and N).

One day, N and I met to talk about him wanting to be friends and he also felt the need to remind me he didn't have feelings for me (I don't say it lightly when I say he treated me very coldly). This happened while I was getting calls from my family that my grandmother was hospitalized, but at that point they made it clear nothing serious. He overheard the conversation and understood what was happening, so we rescheduled. I told M about this, angry, and she was challenging my perspective? I said "I just do not understand how he didn't have feelings for me and can treat me this way?" and her response was "It sounds like you have unresolved feelings for him. What makes you think he has to like you?".

M would also always ask me to come visit her in her town, but she would always be in my town and hanging out with other people, including N. It would be every so often that N would ask if we could hang randomly, and I would usually be busy and ask her to make plans as its easier for me. That has never worked with her.

My grandmother died that night. Anyone who knows me personally knows how devastating this has been, especially because my grandmother raised me. A week later N was in a relationship with one of his past fwb. When I got back into town M picked me up at the airport and she bought me food which was nice. I was very disoriented and distraught with my loss, and being with him in class was extremely hard for me then. Apparently, while I was gone, N asked M if I was okay when I didn't answer his messages, but she "didn't feel comfortable disclosing anything to him".

For my birthday, I was away at home & she texted. When i got back, my other friends threw a surprise party for me. She asked me to let her know if i planned anything to celebrate and let her know if i needed anything (related to grief). Nothing has happened since then, because i hit a slump and didnt feel like planning anything, besides i felt celebrated enough by my other friends.

M has been going through it too. She got involved with her ex again, and he was very emotionally abusive to her. One time while I was in class she texted me saying she was going to be in town and was saying she had some stuff in her mind she wanted to MAYBE talk to me about on Sunday (said wednesday). I didn't ask further about it, and asked her to lmk. She said "man stuff. no bueno" i said "i see, im sorry" and she replied "do you" and that ticked me off so bad i replied "well i can see it literally". She replied three days later as if nothing.

I can admit my capacity to show up for my friends has been a bit low, and I have been very clear with my friends about where I'm at emotionally and what I can give. I've gotten better with time, but I can say my tolerance for things has lowered?

M became close to N's new girlfriend and has since brought them up in conversation to me multiple times. I usually treat it lightly, but it always makes my chest feel hot and my pulse race. I deleted my social media because M constantly posts pictures with the both of them and I cant bear to watch. I dont feel safe talking to M anymore after everything, but I dont want to impose like "I dont want to hear about N and his girl anymore" "I dont want to see them on your social media" when a) thats her choice? and b) I am not sure if i have been the greatest friend either?

So, WIBTA?

AITA for blocking aomeone who hurt me on social media My husband and I own a bakery in a small town. One of our employees I counted as a friend. We sent each other reels on Instagram. Texted picture of hikes, baked goods, funny pictures of our pets and family. One day she went to my husband and said she didnt want to work around me anymore because I was too stressful. It was the middle of summer, we get VERY BUSY. We work in a tight space and hell, it's the food industry. Im not sure exactly what triggered the request but what hurt was that she didn't say anything to me, she called my husband privately.

Some background details...I have BPD. I am in therapy and constantly working on myself with DBT ​. As a result I feel emotions stronger than most. I have a harder time regulating and I often split (go into black and white thinking, good and evil) on a person when I feel hurt or wronged.

I felt so hurt, rejected, and abandoned. I split. I officially hated her. I knew I was over exaggerating it, but I couldn't get over it. So I started working nights to try to give myself time. My "desires to "sleep" forever" were at an all time high and my husband was doing nothing but siding with her.

After 4 or 5 weeks of working nights away from everyone else. She gave her 2 weeks notice. I commented to my husband that he can't blame me because I wasnt around. But he said that was the problem and thus it was my fault. I crashed again. I felt like I couldn't do anything right. I struggle with the criticisms from customers, staff, and family. It felt like everything was collapsing on me. Working 70 to 80 hours a week only to feel like it was never enough. Smiling and faking the small talk only to go home exhausted and cry myself to sleep.

The first day into her 2 weeks she walked out and said she wasnt coming back. After she told us she cared about the bakery, swore she wanted to give us time to find a replacement she ended up giving us 6 hours.

I blocked her on Facebook and Instagram and decided she didnt need to be a part of my life anymore. As far as I was concerned she was dead. ​

Things were getting better. I started working early morning and into shop hours. I still hated hearing her name. Still hurt. But I was moving forward.

5 weeks later she texts my husband asking why she was blocked on Instagram. My huband freaked out on me. Said he couldn't and wouldn't work with me if I was going to be so unprofessional. That blocking her was wrong, I was wrong.

I feel like she isn't an employee or friend anymore. And it's just social media. It was cathartic for me to remove her from my life symbolically. And I don't see the big deal with her being unable to see our social media.

Is my husband right. Am I the asshole.

I (20F) recently decided to cut off a group of girls I’ve been friends with for six years, and I’m wondering if I’m wrong for how I handled it.

We’ve been friends since high school, but over time, I started noticing how negative they could be toward me, especially when it came to my relationship and personal life.

Whenever I couldn’t hang out, they would automatically assume I was with my boyfriend. The frustrating part was that I never lied about spending time with him. If I was with him, I would tell them. He also worked closing shifts at Target, so half the time he wasn’t even available. I was balancing college, basketball, and two jobs over the summer, so I genuinely had a busy schedule.

Another thing that bothered me was how negative they were about things I was excited about. In August, I went to Glacier National Park with my boyfriend, a trip I was really looking forward to. Instead of being happy for me, I felt like they focused on the negatives. This wasn’t anything new either. Whether it was my relationship, something I posted on Instagram, or something I accomplished, there always seemed to be something to criticize.

Whenever I tried bringing up how I felt, the conversations usually turned into everyone pointing out what I was doing wrong. Eventually, I got tired of having the same conversations and feeling like nothing was changing.

The last time we actually spoke was August 25th. I was the last person to message our group chat, and nobody responded. We didn’t speak again until my birthday in October, when they all wished me a happy birthday. I appreciated it, but that was the only communication we had.

I also didn’t invite them to my birthday celebration because we hadn’t spoken in almost two months, and honestly, I didn’t feel comfortable having them there.
After that, I decided to distance myself without explaining why. Part of me feels guilty because six years is a long friendship to walk away from, but another part of me feels like I’ve already tried communicating my feelings before.

I understand friendships go both ways, and I could’ve reached out too. However, I was the last person to make an effort, and I didn’t want to keep forcing something that no longer felt genuine.

I don’t hate them or wish anything bad on them. I just feel like I shouldn’t have to constantly defend my relationship, my schedule, or the things that make me happy.

So, AITA for cutting off my friends of six years without having one final conversation, or was I justified in quietly walking away?

(Repost from the original on the AITA vanilla, prob should have read them rules....)

Hello people, i dont really know how to start this as it is a fairly recent event, but im here because i need impartial judges to take a crack at my situation, i will try my best to present both sides as fairly as possible but its me who is writing this and not my dad so please consider that before passing judgement

I guess the first thing to start this with is saying that my dad is disabled, he lost use of his legs when i was fairly little, i would have included this in the title but it felt like i would be using it as a hook for this and that is not my intention.

That being said i want to make clear that if there is one thing i do not blame my dad for is not wanting to spend time with me...

But that was kind of all he ever tried to do as my parent, i understand working under his conditions is very hard and we did not live together for a majority of my life, pretty far apart actually, but i cannot recall a single Christmas or birthday gift in the past 15 years, any earlier memory is too blurry to tell and thing didn't get better with more serious things like rent or my education, i will not say he never chipped in as that would be a lie but his contributions would probably amount to around 1000 dollars for my whole life (i am an adult now for reference)

My dad feels like he has fulfilled his duties as a parent by messaging me hellos and how was your day, superficial things that for me dont make him deserving of that title, perhaps its my fault ofr not letting him in more, but then again he isn't a person i very much like, isn't to say he is a bad one.. just we are very different

I have been ignoring him for 2 months after he made a comment about me not caring about making a relationship with him, i did so because i just didn't know what he wanted me to say to that and was kinda shocked, point is he writes a big essay on how he is leaving this sadness behind and that his door will be open for when i actually wanna talk, oh and a weird threatening lawsuit to my mom so he gets to see me.... it was pretty badly made so i dont know his objective with it but the point is i kinda broke, i had been thinking of him for a while so i sent him a long long message detailing my problems with him and accepting him abandoning this saddnes and that i will do so as well, i have blocked him from everything and i dont want to hear from him unless he is ready to man up to his responsibility as a parent or he accepts that he in my eyes failed me as my parent

Still... one small part of me feels im being unfair and i need that impartial judgement that only strangers can provide

I will give context if needed, i understand its fairly vague but i could go on and on about this and there is a character limit to this

So... AITA?

I 21 male and my girlfriend 22 have been dating for a month. We've been mates since we were 16 however her and her ex have been mates since they were 13. They broke up due to him not treating her right and not letting her spend time with her family. I personally hate the guy I think hes a dick and an idiot. She knows how i feel about him but she wants to be friends with him even tho he still loves her. We had an argument the other day because he went to the hospital with a small pain on his side and he said it was due to "not pissing for 6 hours" I told her I dont like the idea of her being mates with her ex but shes an adult and can make her own choices. But to me im uncomfortable by it and find it werid. We've spoke about it before and she said she wont betray my trust. Today we argued again over him because he yet again was texting her as if they were dating and so was his family. I told her it makes me uncomfortable and so far everytime we've agruged its because if him. I dont know how else to get my point across that i dont want them to be friends but she clearly isnt getting the message.

Hi! I'm new here, so this is my first post and sorry but this will be a long one.

I (20F) met my now-ex-boyfriend (22M) at a summer festival, and we started dating two months later. Looking back, I felt like we rushed into the relationship because I didn't know him well enough yet. Things were great at first. We would go out after my classes and talk, but after a few months, I realized that I still didn't really know him. I told him that I felt like we talked without actually getting to know each other on a deeper level. He's a very emotional person, so he started crying. I didn't fully understand why because I wasn't trying to hurt him; I just wanted us to communicate better and get to know each other. As far as I know, he hadn't experienced any past trauma or problems that might explain his reaction.

A few months later, around Christmas, I started noticing other things. When it came to gifts, he didn't seem to put much thought into them and would usually buy things from Temu. I now have three lamps that are the same, just with different designs, along with other random things. He had a stable job and lived with his parents, so money wasn't really an issue. I'm not saying gifts need to cost thousands of euros, but I put more thought and effort into his gifts and spent money I had earned from my summer job.

There were other little things, too. Once, he didn't want to spend €3 on parking, so he parked farther away, and we had to walk 30 minutes to our date. We then had to walk back in the rain.

I also started feeling like he didn't really listen to me. I was going through a stressful period with school tests, and on top of that, my aunt had passed away. One day, we went out, and I thought we were going on a date, but he drove us to a secluded place so we could do you know what in the car. I broke down crying because I was exhausted and just wanted to go home to my dorm. He asked if I was crying because of my uncle, which made me cry even more. He didn't know what to do and started crying too. Then he got out of the car and sat on a rock. I just stared into the distance, waiting for him to come back so he could drive me to my dorm.

Another time, he told me that he had been hanging out with his friends and their girlfriends when one of his friends jokingly asked where his girlfriend was. Apparently, he started crying over that, too.

We had been together for eight months, but during that time, he had only visited my home once, for two hours, to meet my family. Afterward, we drove to celebrate New Year's Eve with his friends, which I didn't particularly enjoy. Meanwhile, I visited his house almost every week. Eventually, my school tests started piling up, and I spent two weeks+ at home studying. We didn't see each other during that time. The longer we were apart, the more I thought about the emotional distance between us.

When summer would came around again, I knew I would be working almost every day to save money for the next school year. That meant we wouldn't see each other much, which I knew would make him upset. I didn't want to be the reason he was constantly stressed or crying. I reassured him many times that I was there for him, that I loved him, and that he just needed to wait a few more days until we could see each other.

In the end, I decided we should break up. There were several reasons, including everything I mentioned above, as well as some other things. I also felt that ending the relationship might be better for both of us.

We lived two hours apart, and he found the drive difficult. At the time, I hadn't passed my driving test yet, so I couldn't drive to see him myself. During the summer, when I would be working almost every day, we probably wouldn't have seen each other unless I took the bus which was 3 hours drive. I knew the distance would be difficult for him, and I didn't want him to keep feeling stressed or crying because of our relationship.

He took the breakup relatively well and agreed with my decision. He told me that he had never experienced that much emotional stress in a relationship before, which hurt me to hear. hadn't realized how much it was affecting him because he hadn't really communicated that to me.

I never realized he was struggling that much because he hadn't communicated it to me.

I told him that if he ever needed me, I would still be there for him, but after that, we stopped talking.

Later, I saw him again at the same festival where we had first met. We talked, cried together, but still managed to have a good time. When it was time to say goodbye, and I cried again before going home.

I did have some thoughts about whether I had made a mistake by breaking up with him, but eventually, I let those thoughts go.

So, AITA for breaking up with him? Was there a better way to handle the situation, or did I make the right decision?

So I 21F came back from a 2 week vacation last month with my friend group of 4 where we stayed in a beach town in the next city. One of the girl’s, who I’ll call Amy has an older half brother Dylan 23M, who has a house in the town we’re visiting. Even though he’s young, Dylan’s a successful photographer and makes good money doing ads for brands, plus his rich step dad and mum helped him buy it.

Additionally, there’s 2 other girls who I’ll call Jess and Lily. During the trip, Lily kept making comments about my boobs calling them “cow milkers”. My boobs aren’t that crazy, I’m only a C cup. Little things like this kept happening and neither of the other girls stood up for me even when I told her to stop. Added context, Lily and I aren’t the closest in the group ever since she kept making comments to me in high school that she thought I was hot and since I was bi, i could show her the ropes or something. I had a boyfriend at the time and of course rejected her. Obviously.

I don’t know if the others knew of this which is why they didn’t really stand up for me or tell Lily to stop but I guess it doesn’t matter now. On week 2 of the trip, me and the girls were staying at Dylan’s place since he was doing a shoot in another state. However, he came back a week early since Amy got the dates wrong but Dylan didn’t mind (super chill guy) and the house had 3 bedrooms. Just to note as well, when Dylan arrived, Amy pulled me aside separately and asked me to promise her that I wouldn’t hook up with Dylan which I thought was weird because we’ve met before at her birthdays and she didn’t say anything then. The plan was to have 2 girls share the queen bed in the guest room and Amy could have the single bed in the smaller 3rd room while I slept on the sofa bed/couch. The sofa bed wasn’t at all uncomfortable and I was delegated to the living room since I was the tallest.

On one of the last nights, Dylan came into the living room where I was and we started chatting. It was fairly chilly that night so he invited me up to his room. One thing lead to another so I thought whatever he’s super fit. Morning came, and the girls went to look for me since I wasn’t in the living room, thus leading them to find me naked in Dylan’s bed. All hell breaks loose and Amy starts sobbing, like full on having a meltdown. Jess sees Amy cry and because she’s such an empath, starts crying as well. At this point I’m apologising profusely and eventually the trip ends. 2 weeks go by and no one in the group’s responding to me even though I sent them apology messages. I asked my other friends about this and some are split saying that I made a promise.

I don’t know what to do since I would understand if she’s upset at me for going behind her back but I feel like her reaction and the rest of the group are just disproportionate to what happened. So reddit, AITA and what do I do since we’ve all decided to have a dinner this weekend.

To start off I (23 F) got a call from my best friend (23 F) of nine years saying that something happened and that she needed help so the next day I went and quit my job and made plans to move out to her within the week. Her boyfriend at the time had gotten into some legal trouble and needed a responsible person to be able to be home while he handled the court situation so I was his responsible person. I lived with them the whole time for a while, mostly sleeping on the couches since I didn’t have a room I got a new job and was helping with expenses and everything next thing we know they break up so me and her and her daughter (4 F) get an apartment together. Everything is great. The apartment is amazing. We’re getting along just great. I got another new job so that I could have a better schedule to babysit her daughter. six months later all of a sudden she packs her bags and drives overnight to her parents that live six hours away without letting me know or anything and is basically ignoring me when I try to text her then when she does come back, she’s still ignoring me come to find out. She has a problem with our living arrangement, but doesn’t wanna talk about it so I brought up the idea of me moving out and her only response was “before or after the lease ends” After talking about it some more and talking about the lease breakage fee, she ends up saying that she will bring me to court and sue me if I make her pay any of the breakage fee now almost 2 weeks later we still haven’t talked in person and every text message is more hostile than not and I’m trying not to respond to her anger, but I just don’t know what I did and I’m confused and angry that she’s doing this to me after everything that I’ve done for her also to add on I babysit her daughter for free when she needs me to and for a majority of our living time together, I’ve been taking care of her dogs while she is gone at work and elsewhere so now I’m stuck with six more months left on the lease walking on eggshells unless I can save up $2000 but I just wanna know am I being an asshole for not wanting to be the one to start the conversation and wanting her to come to me?

Sorry if this is a little hard to read and/or confusing I wrote it really fast and I’m not the best at telling stories

i was friends with Cat for almost 10 years. we were close, enough that i deeply trusted them and considered them like a sibling. Cat knew me thru abuse, healing, and growing, just as i did them. i considered us best friends, and did everything i could to support them with my very limited resources.

my gramma was my only friend growing up. we'd spend HOURS together, her cheering on my love for games, anime and drawing, and being the one person i could talk to while i was trying to find myself as a human. when i moved states, she was who i missed the most, and told myself that if i got enough money put together that i would move back and help take care of her- i at least owed it to her for raising me.

cancer beat me to it. her death destroyed me, and is the first death in my immediate family. i still write her letters, i still dream about her. next summer, my first tattoo will be in remembrance of her, even though i know she'd scold my head off for even thinking of getting it done in the first place, lmao (sorry gramma). my mom giving me the news crushed me, and i barely remember if i even ate or anything that whole week. nothing felt the same, even still.

Cat was the first person i told. and really the only person until i was able to get through the first of many hours of just sobbing. i told them i already knew i wasnt gonna be myself, and was just running on auto pilot, including logging into the MMO we both played and literally in all senses afk'd. i had nothing in me.

and then Cat pressured me into running a boss with them. i told i didnt want to, but because im a healer main, they wanted me to do it and not some rando. we wiped maybe 10 times, lagged out, and by the end i was so upset i fully shut off my pc and went to bed to cry.

this continued for a week. id log in, said i wasn't up to doing stuff, and Cat would ignore me. they never checked in on me, they didn't even bother reaching out to me at some point. i checked in with a couple of mutual friends when the incident happened, and they said that Cat probably forgot my gramma had just passed. never have i felt so baffled by such a slap to the face, but here we are.

after talking to other friends (the people who WERE reaching out to me to make sure i was okay and if i needed anything), confessing to all the times they talked shit about them after they would go out of their way to help them, i decided to end the friendship. this wasnt the first time theyd treated me so poorly, having said to my face i was their "replacement bestie" after their original best friend went to university. even now, cat and the new group theyre friends with in game follow me around when they think i cant see them and scatter with i notice.

aita?

About a week ago my uncle admitted to me that he had been flirting with a costumer from his job. She knows he’s married with kids. (Before anyone asks why, me and my aunt/uncle are extremely close they’re like my parents basically. My uncle has little to no friends that he trusts). He admitted this to me and that they’ve been texting/hanging out. I basically went in on him questioning what was going on with my aunt, if they’re in a bad place, separating or if he’s losing feelings. The answers were no to all of them and he loves my aunt. The conversation boiled down to that this was a stupid crush getting out of hand and he was going to cut contact other than her needing something professional from him since technically he’s her sales rep (I went in on him about this too.). He admitted he made a mistake but knew this was the time to stop before it went too far. Well Reddit he did not stop and he stepped in shit. Saturday he called me needing help with something and being super vague, he admits he has a huge hickey and needs help covering it up, after verifying it didn’t come from my aunt and putting two and two together he admits to never coming home from work and getting super drunk and “making a huge mistake” he didn’t admit it but im not stupid. He got drunk and spent the night. I told him I wouldn’t be helping him with this and I made the mistake of saying I wouldn’t tell my aunt, this is where I may be the AH. Well after basically bawling my eyes out and speaking to my mom I came to the conclusion that my aunt needed to know. If it was me id want to know. I texted him telling him he needed to tell her or I would and he blew up on me. He accused me of breaking his trust and going back on my word on keeping it to myself, he went in on me about giving him an ultimatum, ruining our relationship + hurting my aunt, he went in on me about “seeing my true colors” and how he couldn’t believe I’d be someone he lost basically turning it around on me like I’m the villain. I know I’m not in the wrong..I think. But his words really got to me and idk I’m heartbroken and lost, he did agree to telling her but I feel like a giant AH. AITA? Should i have stayed out? I’m just trying to stand by my morals and I don’t like cheaters and feel like my aunt deserves to know and keeping this secret is eating me up inside.

Last week, my wife and I attended Thanksgiving dinner at my daughter's house. Also invited were my stepdaughter, Kathy (19F), my ex-wife Claire, her husband Ron, and my daughter's husband Ken and his parents.

It was a lovely evening. We had a great meal, plenty of laughter, and some entertaining conversations, particularly about our collective distaste for our neighbours south of the border.

Everything was going wonderfully until dessert.

Out of nowhere, my daughter announced that she and Ken were planning to renew their wedding vows in May 2027. Then, in front of everyone, she turned to me and asked if I would walk her down the aisle.

I was completely blindsided.

Suddenly, everyone at the table was looking at me, waiting for my response.

My wife, Maisie, gently held my hand and nodded, encouraging me to answer.

After an awkward pause, I cleared my throat and said, "I'll have to check my schedule and see if I can make it."

My daughter looked stunned.

She pointed out that the ceremony was months away and asked what could possibly prevent me from committing.

I replied, "Well, if I can't make it, I'm sure Ron can do it again."

The atmosphere changed instantly.

My daughter became visibly upset, her eyes filled with tears, and she left the table.

My ex-wife said something that I honestly didn't register, while my son-in-law awkwardly attempted to change the subject.

We decided to leave shortly afterward. My daughter never came out of her room to say goodbye.

During the drive home, Maisie remained unusually quiet. Even Kathy, my stepdaughter, eventually asked if I was okay.

Here's the background.

Six years ago, when my daughter married Ken, she chose her stepfather, Ron, to walk her down the aisle instead of me.

Her excuse was to simplyfy logistics, cater to her mother's request, Ron's reasoning that I have two more daughters (my stepdaughter) who I can walk down the aisle while Ron only has two son and one step daughter and finally my daughter's nderstanding that it wasn't a big deal for me.

She informed me about her decision during rehearsal when she asked to step aside and let Ron walk her down the aisle. I was devastated and heart broken but i did not wanted to create a scene at her wedding dress rehearsal so I obliged.

After the wedding i was suppose to join her at father daughter dance but I refused citing my health and asked Ron to go ahead with that as well.

Other man take the role I had always imagined fulfilling as her father was something I struggled to accept.

Over the years, my daughter and I have talked about it extensively. She apologized, acknowledged how deeply her decision hurt me, and made genuine efforts to repair our relationship.

And I forgave her.

At least, I thought I had.

But forgiveness and forgetting are two very different things.

Three days after Thanksgiving, my daughter finally texted me.

She said she was disappointed that, after six years, I was apparently still holding her wedding decision against her.

She reminded me of everything she had done over the years to make amends and said she felt hurt that I didn't seem to appreciate her efforts.

She also explained that asking me to walk her down the aisle at her vow renewal was supposed to be a meaningful gesture. In her eyes, it was an opportunity to give me the experience I had missed the first time.

But here's my problem.

I don't see it as an honour. I see it as a consolation prize.

She had her wedding six years ago. She made her choice about who would walk her down the aisle, and that moment is gone forever.

I cannot go back in time and experience it.

Having me walk her down the aisle at a vow renewal now feels like an afterthought, almost as though she's trying to recreate something that can never truly be recreated.

And frankly, that makes the whole thing feel more insulting than meaningful.

What bothers me even more is that she put me on the spot in front of the entire family, without discussing it with me privately first.

I understand that, from her perspective, this might have been a heartfelt attempt to make things right.

But from mine, it feels like she's asking me to participate in a symbolic gesture designed to erase a decision that hurt me deeply.

I have forgiven her, and I genuinely appreciate the effort she has made to rebuild our relationship. But our relationship has never been the same and will never be the same.

I don't believe forgiveness automatically means I have to pretend the hurt no longer exists.

Nor do I think I should have to participate in something that feels emotionally hollow to me simply because she believes it should make everything right.

So, AITAH for refusing to walk my daughter down the aisle at her vow renewal because I still haven't gotten over her choosing her stepfather over me at her original wedding?

I (20F) have a friend (21F) whom I've been pretty close to for three years. Over the past two and a half years I've noticed a pattern of behaviour that's increasingly started to bother me, and something that happened today made me question whether I'm being unreasonable.

Today, five of us went to our college cafeteria, me, another female friend, this girl, and two male friends.

She'd forgotten her bag, so she went back to get it after asking one of the guys to buy her food and save her a seat. When we arrived the cafeteria was packed. Our table only had two chairs, so my female friend and I went looking for extras. But this girl just stood there, expecting one of the guys to get a chair for her. Sure enough one immediately got up and did it.

Once we settled down one of the guys was about to sit when she asked him to get her ketchup. He got up again.

She and one of the guys had ordered the same tofu and mayonnaise sandwich. He'd already opened his, while she was opening hers. She handed hers to him, told him to open it and keep it, and took his because it apparently looked better. After he'd opened hers she decided his original sandwich looked better after all and started whining in a baby voice that she wanted it back, but he'd already taken a bite so they couldn't exchange again.

She kept asking people to open things for her, hold things for her, and do little tasks she could easily manage herself. It wasn't one request that bothered me, it was the constant expectation that people would cater to her.

And this isn't just about today. She regularly asks us to carry her bag, complete assignments, send answers, upload work on her behalf, and get her printouts. In three years of college I genuinely cannot remember her getting her own printouts. She expects others to handle even basic responsibilities.

She's very pretty and charming, and I sometimes feel people are so taken with her that they don't question this behaviour. Everyone just does whatever she asks them to do, and she

I have no problem helping friends, but I believe there's a difference between doing someone a favour and being expected to do everything for them. Individually these incidents seem minor, but together they feel like a pattern to me.

I've tolerated this for 2.5 years, but I'm increasingly irritated and want to spend less time around her. Maybe she doesn't realise how often she does this, and maybe everyone else genuinely doesn't mind.

AITA for wanting to distance myself from her? Am I being overly judgmental, or is it reasonable to be put off by this repeated behaviour?

So basically, I’ve (F20) been dating my boyfriend (M22) for a few months now, and love him very much. He’s perfect for me and I could never imagine being with someone else.
However, recently I’ve been having these weird thoughts about the past. Prior to my relationship with my current boyfriend, I had a long term fwb that ended in an incredibly toxic manner and led us both to never contacting each other since. I know there would never be a chance for us to rekindle what we had, and knowing the type of person he was, I don’t even want that, but I’ve been thinking about him lately. We’ll both be going out for Halloween in the same city and even though I know I’d never cheat on my boyfriend and have no wish to try get in contact with this past fwb, is it weird that I have these scenarios forming in my head where I get to see him during the Halloween night out?
I feel like a horrible girlfriend for even thinking that and my boyfriend knows exactly everything that man put me through so it’s not as if I’m wishing to cheat or leave him for the SOB but my mind feels so fuzzy and conflicted..
Am I crazy or what..? 😬😬

AITAH for getting mad at my bf for inviting me on dates and then saying he dosen’t have money and putting me on the spot then sending it like a day later like what the actual fuck is wrong with him for this i’m not mad that i have to pay sometimes im mad that he dosen’t think im important enough to have shit planned. How do i bring this up?

I (34M) was dating my girlfriend (28F) which we will call Megan. Matched on Tinder Nov2025. Her apartment lease was set to terminate on Aug2026. I own my home, and I have a son (7M) and a 50-pound dog (1.5M).

She failed to find a suitable apartment by the time her lease expired, and she chose not to renew with the same complex. She was ready to be homeless. I offered that she stay temporarily with me while she finds a new apartment, explicitly stating it is temporary and our relationship is not developed enough to fully cohabitate. She agrees.

We move 90% of her stuff into a storage unit and 10% into my home.

Through the 2 months that follow, our relationship deteriorates. I view her as dodging accountability, refusing to air frustrations, refusing to hear aired frustrations. She views me as impatient, unable to comprehend her view, and exaggerating problems. Things fall apart.

As tensions rise, she changes her USPS home address to my address without discussing with me. I ask how the apartment search is going, to which she provides evasive and vague answers. I find apartments that fit her budget and needs and send them to her asking for clarification on what is a hit/miss so I can refine the search and help her find an apartment. She provides vague and dismissive answers. Ex: "It feels off. I don't know."

An incident occurred. She let my crate-trained dog out of the crate and did not supervise him while I was at work. He destroyed a couch cushion. I call her on my commute home and ask, "How are things? Keep the dog in the crate or take him for a walk?" Megan responds playfully, "Oh, you'll see..." I ask if there is a mess or a problem, and she continues the playful evasion. I'm convinced it's a fun thing and finish my commute around 10pm.

Open the door to couch stuffing EVERYWHERE. Ripped up cushion shreds throughout the living room. Megan sitting at the dining table on her phone, playfully saying, "Look at what your dog did". I'm livid. I distract myself with a hobby of building a table to calm down, before returning to the room to clean up. Megan is now asleep. I clean up the mess, tend to the dog, and sleep on the damaged couch instead of joining Megan.

The next day, I discuss my issues of what happened. Megan chose not to supervise the dog, not to inform me of the mess, not to clean it, and not to offer to help me clean it. I state this is a red flag to me, indicating she has a mindset incompatible with mine. She says she needs time to think on it. We spend 2 days apart.

We return together. I engage on the conversation where we left off. She criticizes my house rules, blames my 1.5yr old rescue dog deferring any accountability, and is still defensive. I state this is another red flag to me. We need to be able to get together after a fight and resolve disagreements. Megan states, "SHE didn't have a fight. SHE has no disagreements." I broke. The relationship is over in that moment. I curtly inform her that we are over and now is high time she finds an apartment. Let me know when you're ready to return the house key. I can help move your stuff when you're ready.

TLDR: Girlfriend ends her lease with no plan. Boyfriend agrees to temporarily house her. She overstayed her welcome.

[EDIT: Am I the asshole for breaking up with my homeless girlfriend?]