Met up with a guy for a quick walk with our dogs, it was maybe an hour total, just a quick get-to-know-you vibe. He texted me the next morning and asked if my dog liked him, but I was already at work running a training and figured I’d text him later in the day.

Then…this🫩

Clarification*
- she is 30, and I see no problem with that.
- yes, she was super hot
- changed my age settings mean I just changed them so I won’t have this experience again.
- I do not want to be a daddy (I already have a kid)
- It must be hard to see, but she messaged me first.

Update*
Neither of us unmatched. We continued being annoyed with one another but explained our positions. She is now telling me about the interesting things she is into.

Update 2*
Things turned mostly friendly. We have a coffee date tomorrow. I’m supposed to bring a copy of my state bar card because she allegedly does not believe an attorney could be so dumb. This woman is unfathomably good looking. You would understand.

Update 3*
Coffee date went surprisingly well. 45 minutes. Constant playful banter. It was just a funny misunderstanding. She thought I was demanding a song and dance, I thought her response was ridiculous. We were both jerks and I was condescending. It’s already an inside joke that we’re having fun with.

Update 4*
Texting daily and FaceTiming most nights. She now texts mostly complete sentences (requested). She is not a jerk, at all. Have a real date tomorrow night.

I (32f) started off the conversation trying to be a bit cheeky with his (43m) dog and I guess the first response (which I interpreted as a joke/domineering thing because my dog comment was not offensive) was actually serious. It only got worse, I tried giving the benefit of the doubt until it was crystal clear that it wasn’t flirty/joking behavior but genuine disgust.

He unmatched because obviously we were definitely not looking for the same thing. This attitude is wild. His profile pics seemed kinda like an alpha male but one of the answers to the prompts was “together we can rule the world” - which I’ve only seen hundreds of times.

I have to see this as absurdly wild in a funny way because that’s so toxic otherwise. I’ve been off bumble a while (sabbatical from dating because of bs like this). Anyone else seen trends like this?

What do I even say here?

This is the best conversation since installing the app

I wonder if this was a retaliation to my basic starter question

This I haven’t accepted to meet her yet.
Feel bad for the husband..
Are these people disturbed?

I set a date and time per her open dates. I didn’t have time at the moment then to figure out details but I figured we could lock in something on the calendar and I would get back to her about details when I had more time. But that didn’t work for her. Fine. So I chose something quick just to make it happen. Then she hits me with the last text. That I need to come up with plans for after (lady, we haven’t met, dinner might be all the time we want to spend with each other), and that based on the “vibes” she would prefer the day before. I’m out, no way this is gonna work, I can’t with someone this high maintenance.

Edit: Alright everyone, I just posted this to show ONE particularly silly and stupid app interaction. It was not an indictment of dating culture in general, or of women, or anything really. Just a moment that I thought was ridiculous. Really a bummer that people see this and run with it to confirm their own biases regarding the opposite sex. Some women are annoying just like some men are trash. HUMANS, all genders/sexes, have annoying and stupid individuals. It does not mean that everyone from said group that an annoying person happens to be a part of is also that way. And if that’s how you think, you are intellectually very lazy. Don’t generalize, humans are not a monolith. Rant over.

This one is kinda crazy. The brown or blonde hair only really stood out to me. Like black hair is where you draw the line? Also, is that code for saying I only date a certain race?

I get having preferences, but that specific one feels so random. Especially when it’s listed alongside stuff like personality and hygiene.

And “someone obsessed with me” is definitely a choice. The whole thing feels less like a dating preference and more like a list of requirements. Curious as to what everyone else thinks.

Every time I see this, I'm like "... BRUH" 🙄

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I thought the whole point of a coffee date (usually first date) was intended for low pressure and emotional energy? It’s perfect because if things work out you can plan something more extravagant on date 2 but if the vibes aren’t there you can exit quickly. It makes me wonder what else she refuses to apologize for lol

His profile said he was looking for Long term Relationship.
After I asked, he added “Open to see where things go” but left LTR. Isn’t it satisfying to when they unmatch so quickly? 😌

EDIT FOR MORE CONTEXT :

I am very forward on my profile that I am looking for casual dating/fwb. He superswiped me and I thought he was cute, so I matched even though his profile said he was looking for LTR because I assumed it was flexible, which is why I asked.

When he said that he hadn’t updated his profile and that he was not looking for LTR, he did modify his profile to add the “Open to see where things go” but he did NOT remove the LTR mention. That is when I called him out.
I have no problem with people who are open to both LTR and casual, but he did say he was not looking for LTR, just casual.

It’s just all funny to me, and I wanted to laugh at the situation with women who’ve encountered the same behaviour 😌