Don't you think there are people in Afghanistan who would speak out if they could without being executed for it?

This is important. Hear people out and promote freedom OF and FROM religion.

(You will find the usual dismissals, exaggeration of atheist influence against the oppressed Christians of the US, and personal attacks below.)

Most nonbinary people are cool about it. But there is a handful of nonbinary people who seem to think presentation equals gender. I am a very butch lesbian, very masculine presenting and visibly gay. There have been several times in my life where nonbinary people continue to use they/them pronouns for me, even after being told I use she/her. When I ask why they do that they said it was because I “just seem so nonbinary” even though I’ve made it clear I’m not. I’ve been asked “why don’t you just transition?” Because people assume that presenting as masculine must mean that I’m actually a trans man in denial. Which is stupid and it’s disrespectful to masc lesbians and trans people. This has genuinely happened several times from different people, and I have heard similar stories from others, and seen lots of this stuff online.

I’ve also noticed that kind of person cares a lot about gender roles even in same sex relationships. They expect the masculine partner to “be the man” in a sense. Some people will get upset at their friend or partner for not fitting into strict gender roles well enough. I have seen several posts and conversations about this group of people getting the ick if they’re dating a man and he’s not “manly enough”, and vice versa for women.

When people who aren’t queer (who aren’t trying to be homophobic) misgender me or say something ignorant, after I explain or correct them they address me correctly. When trans people or other gay people address me they will do it correctly even if they need to clarify first. But some nonbinary people just have trouble understanding someone who doesn’t fit normal gender roles doesn’t mean they don’t fit into their gender. That presentation and personality does not equal gender. It’s very interesting to me that this phenomenon is even a thing. You’d expect nonbinary people to be super understanding of people who are gender non conforming. Most of them genuinely are! But the group that isn’t doesn’t make much sense to me.

This may not be the best reference, but I have been watching some YouTube cartoons and at first you see the terribly drawn characters, but when you watch the shows you see how the writer was able to impart so much life and consciousness into something that looks like it was drawn by a 6 year old.

And honestly some of them are just soo good and relaxing and engaging to watch.

Everyone know that in a normal society, you must work a job.

But finding a good paying job is difficult. If you are working a low wage job, you may not have the time and energy to find a better job.

This is where the government can step in. The government will apply to good paying jobs on your behalf and help you with interview skills. That way, everyone can get a good paying job in not too long.

Edit: when I say I high paying job, I mean job that pays enough for rent and groceries

Abortion should always be a last resort option. The amount of people that act like abortion is some sort of magical fix everything procedure is disgusting.

I was just watching a guy finish up a clients tattoo and he had numbing cream on after it was done (it was the cliché as fuck hourglass and clock tattoo that every bro dude gets) and a couple of people were dogging on him for using numbing cream, oh boohoo he didn’t want to be in pain so fuckin what!? Shit on the tattoo he got not the fact that he used numbing cream. You’re not a pussy if you want to use it, but you’re a big judgmental jerkoff if you make someone feel bad for wanting to use it.

In that first fight, Ilia did not fight smart at all. I truly believe he thought he could finish Justin that easily. He just went forward, didn’t use any feints, and barely used any head movement. I think he underestimated Justin Gaethje’s toughness. If you watch Ilia vs. Volk, he is fighting way smarter in that fight. I think if he gets that fight again, he could win if he fights smarter. He almost had Gaethje with a liver shot, but he went for the takedown, which was a huge mistake. So I really believe if Ilia gets the rematch, he will win.

I have never been pregnant by accident. I have had one intentional pregnancy and child. It is a lot easier than people think to not get pregnant by accident, and if I had ever done so, I would have had an abortion.

Because of religious hang-ups people genuinely think an embryo is a person in the same way a kid or even a newborn are. I look at my perfect, wonderful child, and I am glad he has a mother who can be her best self for him. Because parents who should have aborted and don't become abusive parents, neglectful parents, resentful parents. Children deserve better.

"They'll just give their children up for adoption!" But they don't, actually. Statistically most parents who say they would have aborted given the option chose to keep their children, regardless of the availability of adoption. There are thousands of children in the US living in squalor and neglect because of Christian piety that prevents sexual education in schools. People are careless, and I'd rather a person have fifty abortions than let a single baby die of neglect in a home. That happens, and it is preventable. It's not a hard choice. It is the humane choice.

First of all, going to an overweight person and calling them slurs, or hitting them/getting in their way IS fatphobia. But most of the time on social media, that's not what people are complaining about.

Particularly on reddit, experiences of "fatphobia in public" often recount stories of "This waiter offered my friend a free drink but didn't do the same to me" or "These clients showed me the minimum professional courtesy and then gushed over my athletic coworker all day". These types of case are not fatphobia. It's just pretty privilege. And honestly, that's fine.

Everyone deserves basic respect. But everyone doesn't deserve the exact same treatment. We are allowed to show more than basic decency to those we like, for whatever reason. That's how the real world works.

There's no evidence of ghosts, but making serious claims that you saw one is evidence of mental illness. Those who make these claims should be evaluated for schizophrenia or something. At least it would cut down on people making up stories for attention.

If you are in a happy, healthy relationship with your partner, how does having sex with someone else ruin your relationship? Having sex with another person doesn’t mean you love them. You don’t share the same bond with them as your romantic partner, you just wanted to experience their body, thats it. Yet people will let just sex ruin their relationship. Even more hypocritical is when one partner (usually the woman) doesn’t want to have sex anymore, but doesn’t want their partner to have sex with other people either? You’re not entitled to control peoples bodies like that!

A more gray area is emotional cheating but even that is kind of silly. I mean, if you found out that one of your friends had other friends they hung out with, you wouldn’t get mad at them and end the friendship. So why do people do that for romance?

I think this idea of cheating comes from socialization, people are conditioned by society to believe that there’s only one person you can love and have sex with and its really unfortunate, cause humans are clearly not meant to restrict themselves so much. And its a very destructive belief too.

First of am not generalizing, with that out of the way:

Why redditors are like this, once you ask a question you get bombarded with "a simple google search will show you " or "just google it", happened to me and others and possibly happened to you too.

I know that, but I want to take your opinion you dimwit, its infuriates me seeing people asking and get this kind answer cuz its dumb its never stupid to ask questions, also reddit is a social platform it is for that purpose, so stop being an imbecile and either answer the question or piss off if you don't like it, downvote if you like but save us the time it takes to scroll pass your useless comment, if you're one of those I hope you all well, but pls stop get some help.

there are many ways to know a questions' answer and ai make it very much easier in every way, you can write a whole dissertation with it, so you're not sounding smart for saying these things quite the contrary.

Thanks.

People talk about sharing your location as a bad thing. There's not a single downside to doing it, and only upsides. I'm struggling to think of why anyone wouldn't want to share their location. Obviously this is for serious relationships

Edit: this is not a post about not trusting your partner. This is a post about the fact that there are real world scenarios where having your partners location is valuable

Whenever someone says “Christianity is bad because it teaches X” or “Islam sucks because it teaches Y” I’m ju like “I don’t really care. Can you prove that God is the one from this religion or not”?

Even if a religion said “Cover yourself in oil and crawl through mud on every 3rd Tuesday” and long as I was 100% sure it was the actual God of the universe saying it, I’d do it.

You can call me crazy for this but I value getting into heaven and more importantly staying out of hell way more than anything else ever. I know at a base level that God exists, so I’m just doing everything in my power to get on his good side.

So that’s why whenever I research religion I don’t look at “what are its principles or beliefs” I just look at “what are the proofs that it’s the correct one?”

It’s a lot of effort to keep going to the bathroom everytime you have to puke when you’re sick when you could just use a bowl.

The bowl gets cleaned so who really cares? We need to normalize this

I was quite possibly the only latino in my class taking AP AB calculus senior year of my high school while the rest of my Hispanic friends were taking regular mathematics and didn't attend college. I go to uni and AGAIN I was in the minority in all the classes I took. I see other immigrants succeed in the US (mainly Asians) and I wonder WHY us hispanics can't do the same? Hispanics don't promote education in their culture. We instead promote the idea of "sacrifice".

Our parents are immigrants that worked in agriculture their entire lives. They come to the US uneducated and work blue collar jobs to continue on this "sacrifice" tradition. They don't push there kids to follow dreams or to study in school, they emphasis sacrifice and the kids to the same after highschool. Many of my Hispanic friends were envious of me since I went to college, they blamed it on wealth when they didn't even try in school because of fear. If Indians are able to be delusional enough to uptake a 200k loan to study in a T-50, then so can hispanics.

We don't take risk at all, we are too scared and point fingers when things don't go our way. I always tried pushing my friends to take AP classes, but they don't because they are scared, its risky, and they intend to carry on this "sacrifice" tradition onto the next generation.

It means those people don't know how to tell reality from fiction, the consequences of which are significant and devastating to society.

I think being gay mostly means being attracted to masculinity, not just to male bodies. Some gay men deliberately present in a feminine way, and some men who are drawn to them may be attracted to that femininity rather than to maleness. If so, those men could still reasonably be straight.
To be explicit, I'm not saying this applies to most or all gay men, since plenty of gay men aren't feminine at all. I'm also not saying most or all men who sleep with feminine men are straight. I'm talking only about the subset of men who are specifically attracted to feminine presentation.
The best counterargument is that choosing a male-bodied partner when a woman is available suggests some attraction to men, which would make him bisexual. My view is that for some of these men the male body is incidental and the femininity is the draw.

I go to a theater playing Cannibal Holocaust and before the showing a person warns that there are instances of SA and that if people are uncomfortable with it they can get a refund for their ticket and leave.

In the movie there are multiple gang rapes. I had no idea what was going to happen because this stupid term SA covers everything from that all the way to someone kissed me when I didn't want it. I understand the need for sensitivity around the topic but the term is too vague and broad to actually communicate anything. I don't know if someone needs to give a sincere apology or have their ass kicked or go to jail or be executed. I don't know if the victim/survivor is having a bad day or month or can't leave the house or will start screaming if I surprise them tapping on their shoulder. I don't have any idea how to approach or treat them without either asking for more detail or extremely specific boundary delineation. It's the primary phrase for an incredibly delicate subject that communicates absolutely nothing and makes every interaction that follows more difficult.

People in the US are increasingly complaining about less upward mobility and how the rich just get richer. The main reason for that is because capitalism is working correctly.

No one wants to live in a society in which no matter how well they do their children might struggle. In a healthy and prosperous society the rich should get richer and be able to pass on that wealth to their family without restrictions.

Think about it this way, in the United States today if someone is a doctor and invests and saves money responsibly they can pass along enough wealth to set up their family for generations if used responsibly. Anyone who is smart enough can become a doctor, even a family friend of mine who needs to take 450k of debt to graduate medical school, as long as they successfully graduate they will be set.

Most jobs make enough money to put something away in the stock market and with responsible investments even a modest salary can create real wealth.

This will not work for everyone some people truly don’t make enough to put money towards capital, but most of the time it is lifestyle creep or the fact that some places are just to expensive to live on a modest salary, but there are less expensive areas.

In the US you can’t live anywhere you want and expect a wage that allows you to save enough money to purchase capital, but there are always options available.

Capitalism pays those who provide capital if you do not invest in capital and complain it’s not working, that is a personal failure. Unless you truly make a low income in which case sadly no system is without tradeoffs, but at least in capitalism your family only needs to win once to have generational wealth. Also, there are paths available to increase your income in the future.

When you are a highschooler you feel the need for more responsibility. Some highschoolers are idiotic and try to do adult things to feel responsible or mature, its for this reason many parents hate the teens instead of trying to understand them. A parent must realize that their kid is no longer a baby and he/she MUST have a healthy outlet to build control and power ethically or else you get an idiotic teen. You can build control and responsibility ethically through jobs, community service, or comprehensive hobbies.

I've had cousins who nerded out in school and didn't work jobs but instead were presidents of their own respective club at their school. They were getting good grades, they were really out there but her parents tried to get her to work when all she wanted to do was to focus on studying and building up leadership for college. My mom had to intervene and managed to convince her parents to allow her to focus on school and clubs. My cousin attended a T-20 full ride and is pursuing her dream job.

I, in the other hand, WANTED to work throughout high school. I wanted to create my own route but my parents forced me to only focus on my studies since they knew what was best for me. I was already a studious person but I didn't have a set dream for myself so I wanted to work to explore what's around me. My parents were against this and pushed their own narrative for what I wanted. I later adapted to this situation and joined school sports + clubs. When going to college I didn't do it because it was my dream, but because it was forced onto me. I didn't have a dream or a goal whatsoever which was dangerous. Now in college I did work-study despite my parents arguing against it and it was my best time in college. I LOVED work-study. I met many friends there and alongside them I ended up pursing a career that wasn't aligned with my major. If I followed my parent's words to NOT work and to only focus on studying I would be miserable.

The only exception to this rule is if you are impoverished. THEN forcing your kid to work would make sense, but even then your kid would WILLING work knowing the families circumstances. What I see from households like these is there parents force their kids to work (understandable) but they shut off their dreams to do work because "who needs to pay the bills". There needs to be a middle point for these types of families where there kid CAN work and pursue some passion.

Not much to explain, if your not fucking your wife or husband you can’t be surprised or upset they are cheating. You can’t reasonably expect to take sex out someone’s life permanently while they just stay compliant it makes no sense.

Yes I’m aware you can just leave and that would be easy for me as a young man without children or any serious responsibilities. But a woman who’s husband is the breadwinner and has kids not so easy. Or the man who’s whole family is on the line while he bust his ass at work same thing.

My HOA sent out a memo that all Halloween decorations must be removed from your house no later than 11/2/26 which I think is unfair. I left mine up for a few weeks after Halloween last year so I have a feeling I’m the target of this memo.

I’m sure they had decorative pumpkins at the first Thanksgiving? Why can’t I extend that to other decorations? I can put pilgrim hats on the skeletons. A Native American feather hat on the giant inflatable spider. Have the 12 foot tall zombie hold a turkey.

I don’t understand who came up with idea that kids, especially little kids say aged 3-10 need their own bedroom. I shared a room with my sister until age 13 and I loved it. Looking back on my childhood it was awesome we would have midnight talks, it was like a sleep over every night. Also my sister is younger so she would get scared and have nightmares and sneak into my bed for snuggles when we were kids. So many parents complain about kids not wanting to sleep in their own rooms well did it ever occur to them that maybe it’s because it’s completely unnatural for a small child to sleep alone??

Consider how humans evolved/lived for millennia. Kids always slept with parents or siblings, most living arrangements did not have individual rooms for each kid. Little kids sleeping in their own rooms is a complete modern invention that has nothing to do with child psychology, development or health. Even animals sleep with their moms and siblings until they are old enough to go off on their own. Mammals specifically cuddle to regulate their emotions and body temperature and to feel safe. Little kids don’t feel safe all alone in their own rooms because why would they? Being alone as a baby or small child at night was likely a sign of abandonment or danger for most of human existence. Sleeping with parents and siblings was safer as everyone could look out for each other. Instinctively I believe kids desire not to be alone when it gets dark and it’s time to sleep.

Now I understand not every kid is the same so maybe some really would thrive in their own rooms even at a young age but the consensus these days is that kids NEED their own rooms when they actually don’t. It is not a need for most kids the overwhelming majority would actually be better off sharing a room than being alone, especially if they are really young I’m talking ages 3-10. I can’t believe how parents force this on kids and so many act like it’s practically child abuse or neglect to make them share rooms. I see people arguing that not being able to give each child a room is a reason not to have another kid or that parents are not providing “enough” if each kid doesn’t have their own bedroom. Like I said this is a notion based on nothing but our individualist hyper-independent mentality it has nothing to do with what is actually good or necessary for kids well being.

Men, generally, don't really seem to understand that sex is not the only act of intimacy in the world, and a lot of time thats why their sex lives die over time.

You can want sex as your preferred form of intimacy, but when that is the ONLY form of intimacy you are willing to engage in, it becomes a chore and thats why men often complain about sex being "withheld". Acts of service, quality time, non sexual physical affection are all forms of intimacy, and usually the ones that women prefer.

And no, cuddling so you can stick your hand down your wifes pants or doing the dishes because it may get you laid is not another kind of intimacy. Its the precursor to sexual intimacy.