Like, how do people donate to famous streamers on TikTok when all they do is sit in front of a camera and talk and will do anything for clicks and views? Like, how can you donate to famous streamers but aren’t willing to give the homeless any money? Like, these streamers are mostly all rich already. Why give them more money? How can people just sit and watch and donate to streamers?

It’s true that nobody owes you romance, and the same goes for friendship. You didn’t get what you were looking for, and you’re free to move on. If a woman asked me out and I turned her down, I likely wouldn’t wish to remain friends. Trying to maintain a platonic relationship with someone whom you know is into you is just going to lead to a lot of awkwardness down the road, and I would rather not deal with that.

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Whenever women focused subreddits like EvilWomanInc or BlatantMisogyny is brought up, theres always a guy talking about how if someone made a sub just to "bash women" like those do to men, it wouldn't last a week. but that's just objectively not true lmao

there are multiple mainstream subreddits in which the entire point of them is misogyny. ItsThatBad openly posts saying women shouldnt have rights and SipsTea often makes it to the front page.

Obviously, if you go outside, most men walking around with their girlfriends or wives are not exactly Henry Cavill or Brad Pitt. Especially if you go outside of any major city, given the obesity rate in the US.

However, the caveat here is they are dating women who do not have unrealistic standards, and are actively looking for companionship and to settle down. These women are rational individuals who realize that a man does not have to fit some arbitrary standard of 6 ft and 6 figures or whatever the standard is nowadays on Tiktok. And that is why these women are in relationships, and tend to stay in long term relationships because their expectations are rooted in reality and not fantasy.

However, most single men are not encountering these types of women on the apps, in clubs, bars, etc. because they're almost always in a relationship. The majority of the girls that are single for long periods of time are single by choice. They either have insane standards in what they want in a man, have an irrational hatred to the entire gender of men, enjoy the temporary validation of hooking up with more attractive men who won't commit, or they just enjoy the attention of entertaining multiple men at once. So, to your average or ugly guy on a dating app, he's not going to find the type of women who will excuse him for being a little chubby, being short, or not having the best style. That type of woman doesn't stay single for long.

Also, I think this phenomenon is why some people will seemingly deny hypergamy, because they see ugly and unattractive guys dating all the time in the real world. That fact doesn't excuse the reality that there is a good portion of women who do have unrealistic standards, and they are the ones who are most likely to be single and who your average guy is encountering on a dating app. The saying that the good women don't stay single long is 100% true.

Why are “child-free” social media people always so angry and in some sort of one-sided beef with people who have kids and kids themselves? It’s so strange and unsettling.

I know Reddit hates children so I know a lot of said angry people are going to show up to this post and freak out, but seriously, it’s extremely odd and just makes you look like you’re desperately trying to cover for some inadequacy you feel in your life.

I’m gay so I can’t just “go have a baby” like straight people, so I don’t really have a dog in this fight and this is more of an outside perspective, but the truth is that people who are genuinely happy don’t feel the need to run around and condescendingly remind other people about how happy they are and how their lives are so much better.

Child-free social media people almost feel this weird need to constantly brag about how great their lives are and are always comparing their life to what it would look like if they had kids. Like “WELL I SLEPT IN ON SATURDAY!!! I TRAVELED TO SPAIN THIS SUMMER!!!!! I WENT OUT WITH MY FRIENDS IN THE CITY ON FRIDAY NIGHT!!!! CAN YOU DO THAT?? HUH?? HUH????? HUH???????”

Like holy fuck just chill out. If you’re so happy go enjoy your life, why does other people having kids bother you so much? And why are you in a one-sided competition with parents to prove your life is so much better? Like, genuinely, why?

outside dating apps they dislike the idea of a guy chatting them up and asking them out because apparently it makes it look the man is treating them as a potential romantic/relationship prospect instead of a regular human being or whatever. They would like that men would get-to-know-them as people first, but at the same time there are tons of articles where women are dreading about the moment one of her male acquaintances starts soft launching into flirting, or even worse, confessing he has feelings for her. There is no middle ground here because a womans definition of a "guy friend who is about to ruin your friendship" ranges from someone who is a trusted bestie she has known for 10 years to the acquaintance she met at a concert last week.

I have never been pregnant by accident. I have had one intentional pregnancy and child. It is a lot easier than people think to not get pregnant by accident, and if I had ever done so, I would have had an abortion.

Because of religious hang-ups people genuinely think an embryo is a person in the same way a kid or even a newborn are. I look at my perfect, wonderful child, and I am glad he has a mother who can be her best self for him. Because parents who should have aborted and don't become abusive parents, neglectful parents, resentful parents. Children deserve better.

"They'll just give their children up for adoption!" But they don't, actually. Statistically most parents who say they would have aborted given the option chose to keep their children, regardless of the availability of adoption. There are thousands of children in the US living in squalor and neglect because of Christian piety that prevents sexual education in schools. People are careless, and I'd rather a person have fifty abortions than let a single baby die of neglect in a home. That happens, and it is preventable. It's not a hard choice. It is the humane choice.

As a mom I’ve realized in online forums throughout social media sites along with in real life, society has become more okay with parents doing the bare minimum as parents and awarding them with parent of the year.

What I mean is parents willingly admitting they don’t know car seat safety so it’s not their fault their baby is buckled in incorrectly. Was research not done before you gave birth? My biggest problem is parents with phone addictions raising their children to be the same way, not interacting with their children. Taking iPads out to restaurants and family outings, propping up the iPad and throughout the whole meal not once interacting with the child because the parents are on their phones as well.

Mothers being applauded for “trying their best” while still smoking a pack of cigarettes a day while actively pregnant. Did you at least try to quit?

As a parent I worry about sending my children to interact with children that aren’t raised to know what boundaries are, respect, kindness. I’ve worked in elementary schools and it is heartbreaking to see how kindergarteners are swearing at their friends and teachers, know racial slurs and use them towards other children.

It means those people don't know how to tell reality from fiction, the consequences of which are significant and devastating to society.

This may not be the best reference, but I have been watching some YouTube cartoons and at first you see the terribly drawn characters, but when you watch the shows you see how the writer was able to impart so much life and consciousness into something that looks like it was drawn by a 6 year old.

And honestly some of them are just soo good and relaxing and engaging to watch.

Yes, it's expensive, yes we have a homelessness issue because it's expensive, yes we have high traffic, yes, it does get too hot sometimes and we have the occasional fires too, yes we have annoying snobby Beverly Hills type assholes.

Even with all that, it's still amazing to live here. You're going to be broke in other places too. You have hurricanes, tornados, and blizzards in other parts of North America. I've been to many other states and many other parts of the world and they don't offer what this region offers.

There's a reason so many people that leave here eventually come back. San Diego, and Los Angeles are elite next level fucking cities. San Diego especially. I know this is controversial to say here, but I even love Orange County. Our nature is amazing. As a Canadian living here while I miss having 4 seasons, I'm glad I'm not shoveling snow, but can go to the mountains to see it. Lifestyle is generally an active outdoorsy one, and there's a ton of attractive people everywhere. Your favorite band/artist comes through here every tour, guaranteed. Tons of hobby groups to meet friends and people to date. On hot days you can go to the beach. There's endless shit to do. Even Northern California can't compete.

Not saying other places are bad, they just compete. I think all the hatred of SoCal I see is just propaganda. You hate us cause you ain't us.

Most of the BS being thrown around right now all seems to avoid this concept... but it's going to be more normalized in the future.

People seem to think its gross or weak based on the same stereotypes that women are fighting against with men supposedly not seeing their achievements in the career field. Like if theirs 100 jobs available and 150 people, some gotta be doing something else. And if more women take up jobs, but then see men without them as a waste... you literally created that situation and don't see the result as attractive?

I feel like this should be obvious, but I feel like the apps/social media are the biggest issue in modern dating. Most people just love to blame the other gender instead.

Of course in dating looks does play a massive factor as well as job, where you live etc. However, the biggest issue in dating is the apps. The apps are designed to be cold, impersonal and money making machines. The apps encourage bad behaviour like shopping for people (gamifying finding love) and ghosting. Sure the apps can be positive in many ways, but also creates a lot of stress, sadness and delusion. The idea of the "Grass is greener" mentality is all over dating apps.

The other issue is social media. Social media makes everyone think they are entitled to 10/10 supermodel baddies. Where in the real world, when I walk down the street, I see very happy normal couples. Not everyone is a super model in real life. Lot of people only want the very most attractive people and would happily skip people for small reasons. Preferences are normally now exaggerated where people who may be interested in you are no longer an option as you want that really hot person who may or may not even exist outside social media models or movies.

However, most people go straight down the route of "Its all Men/Women fault" The amount of posts of just angry men I read trying to blame women for not dating them is insane. Like almost any dating subreddit has posts about how easy women have it and how women has ruined dating (which is not true). Even today I saw a post where a women was stood up and ghosted and the amount of just random hate was crazy she got from some guys in the comment. Tbh, it goes both ways as there are lots of women who comment how men are to blame, they are all incels and deserve to be lonely .

It baffles me and the misattributed blame lately is deeply concerning. I know reddit is mostly a giant Echo Chamber for angry and bitter people, but the apps and social media algorithms are the common enemy here, not the other gender.

I was quite possibly the only latino in my class taking AP AB calculus senior year of my high school while the rest of my Hispanic friends were taking regular mathematics and didn't attend college. I go to uni and AGAIN I was in the minority in all the classes I took. I see other immigrants succeed in the US (mainly Asians) and I wonder WHY us hispanics can't do the same? Hispanics don't promote education in their culture. We instead promote the idea of "sacrifice".

Our parents are immigrants that worked in agriculture their entire lives. They come to the US uneducated and work blue collar jobs to continue on this "sacrifice" tradition. They don't push there kids to follow dreams or to study in school, they emphasis sacrifice and the kids to the same after highschool. Many of my Hispanic friends were envious of me since I went to college, they blamed it on wealth when they didn't even try in school because of fear. If Indians are able to be delusional enough to uptake a 200k loan to study in a T-50, then so can hispanics.

We don't take risk at all, we are too scared and point fingers when things don't go our way. I always tried pushing my friends to take AP classes, but they don't because they are scared, its risky, and they intend to carry on this "sacrifice" tradition onto the next generation.

I don’t understand who came up with idea that kids, especially little kids say aged 3-10 need their own bedroom. I shared a room with my sister until age 13 and I loved it. Looking back on my childhood it was awesome we would have midnight talks, it was like a sleep over every night. Also my sister is younger so she would get scared and have nightmares and sneak into my bed for snuggles when we were kids. So many parents complain about kids not wanting to sleep in their own rooms well did it ever occur to them that maybe it’s because it’s completely unnatural for a small child to sleep alone??

Consider how humans evolved/lived for millennia. Kids always slept with parents or siblings, most living arrangements did not have individual rooms for each kid. Little kids sleeping in their own rooms is a complete modern invention that has nothing to do with child psychology, development or health. Even animals sleep with their moms and siblings until they are old enough to go off on their own. Mammals specifically cuddle to regulate their emotions and body temperature and to feel safe. Little kids don’t feel safe all alone in their own rooms because why would they? Being alone as a baby or small child at night was likely a sign of abandonment or danger for most of human existence. Sleeping with parents and siblings was safer as everyone could look out for each other. Instinctively I believe kids desire not to be alone when it gets dark and it’s time to sleep.

Now I understand not every kid is the same so maybe some really would thrive in their own rooms even at a young age but the consensus these days is that kids NEED their own rooms when they actually don’t. It is not a need for most kids the overwhelming majority would actually be better off sharing a room than being alone, especially if they are really young I’m talking ages 3-10. I can’t believe how parents force this on kids and so many act like it’s practically child abuse or neglect to make them share rooms. I see people arguing that not being able to give each child a room is a reason not to have another kid or that parents are not providing “enough” if each kid doesn’t have their own bedroom. Like I said this is a notion based on nothing but our individualist hyper-independent mentality it has nothing to do with what is actually good or necessary for kids well being.

It’s peak birthday season and one of my absolute BIGGEST pet peeves is when parents scramble to buy "consolation" gifts for the other kids just because they’re crashing out over someone else getting attention.

When did we stop teaching kids that the world doesn't revolve around them? Yes, we are big on teaching emotional intelligence these days, but there's a massive difference between validating feelings and enabling entitlement. If Tommy is melting down because he didn't get a toy on his brother's birthday, handing him a present anyway just teaches him that a tantrum gets results.

Not only does it ruin the birthday child's special day—because now everyone is tiptoeing around a meltdown or being forced to share the spotlight—it robs kids of a crucial life skill: learning to sit with discomfort. Handling disappointment, waiting your turn, and genuinely celebrating someone else’s win without making it about you are essential.

You 100% can gentle parent while still holding boundaries and teaching kids how to tolerate being uncomfortable.

Whenever I’m working, I don't play that game. If my NK gets a birthday gift, I don't let the siblings tear into it or play with it. For the first two days I redirect every time. Unless my NK says they are ready to share.

I understand there are some special cases, but like even children who are on the spectrum still need to learn those skills.

🤯😬Watching parents cave to the sibling chaos is honestly wild. Rant over!

I am growing tired of the sentiment that people against AI are on a bandwagon or dont have a good reason. Its like wack-a-mole and feels like a psy-op. You want reasons?

Who looks at a baby and thinks "yeah, that's a future rapist." Why should a baby who has done nothing wrong be thought of as a future criminal.

It also reminds me of a video I saw where a dad said "I am a father of two girls. I don't feel comfortable at their ballet and gymnastics practices because all the women there look at me like I'm a pedo. It's stupid. The only reasonable suggestion I got was to 'act gay'. This is the society I'm in. Can't be a dad to my girls at ballet unless I act gay." Which just as bad if not even worst.

They’re all complicit in our oppression. I don’t even know where to start. Private jets and their tremendous environmental cost. Millions or billions of dollars of wealth hoarded. People benefitting from à culture that puts humans on pedestals and for what? These people dgaf about us and are capitalizing off people’s naive belief that they could possibly get to “know” them.

Why do we have 4 years of history in high school and no mandatory economic classes. For voting, personal finance, picking a career and life in general economics 101 will do you way more good than learning more history in your senior year.

Most nonbinary people are cool about it. But there is a handful of nonbinary people who seem to think presentation equals gender. I am a very butch lesbian, very masculine presenting and visibly gay. There have been several times in my life where nonbinary people continue to use they/them pronouns for me, even after being told I use she/her. When I ask why they do that they said it was because I “just seem so nonbinary” even though I’ve made it clear I’m not. I’ve been asked “why don’t you just transition?” Because people assume that presenting as masculine must mean that I’m actually a trans man in denial. Which is stupid and it’s disrespectful to masc lesbians and trans people. This has genuinely happened several times from different people, and I have heard similar stories from others, and seen lots of this stuff online.

I’ve also noticed that kind of person cares a lot about gender roles even in same sex relationships. They expect the masculine partner to “be the man” in a sense. Some people will get upset at their friend or partner for not fitting into strict gender roles well enough. I have seen several posts and conversations about this group of people getting the ick if they’re dating a man and he’s not “manly enough”, and vice versa for women.

When people who aren’t queer (who aren’t trying to be homophobic) misgender me or say something ignorant, after I explain or correct them they address me correctly. When trans people or other gay people address me they will do it correctly even if they need to clarify first. But some nonbinary people just have trouble understanding someone who doesn’t fit normal gender roles doesn’t mean they don’t fit into their gender. That presentation and personality does not equal gender. It’s very interesting to me that this phenomenon is even a thing. You’d expect nonbinary people to be super understanding of people who are gender non conforming. Most of them genuinely are! But the group that isn’t doesn’t make much sense to me.

As long as there is a beef industry there will be cow hides and less of the animals that are already being slaughtered going to waste is a good thing as long as the industry exists. It also biodegrades after a while.

Plastic leather on the other hand is mass produced from fossil fuel and doesn’t biodegrade for 500+ years

I’ve seen people act like it’s a better option because its vegan and more accessible for low income people to purchase.

Edit: Since this needs to be said obviously plant based leather and other natural fabrics are better. I’m not saying the cattle industry in its entirety has less environmental impact than plastic leather nor am I saying it’s ethical.

the "school girl" aesthetic (plaid skirts, pigtails, button down, bowtie and stockings) is weird and anyone defending it needs to be investigated.

every year theres "sexy schoolgirl" halloween costumes, every stripper, bartender or waitress has stories about how pigtails get her more tips, and porn websites are filled with women in pigtails and bedrooms clearly intended to be that of a teenagers. I dont care if "but schoolgirls can be 18!", most of them aren't and you full well know it.

Don't you think there are people in Afghanistan who would speak out if they could without being executed for it?

This is important. Hear people out and promote freedom OF and FROM religion.

(You will find the usual dismissals, exaggeration of atheist influence against the oppressed Christians of the US, and personal attacks below.)

First of all, going to an overweight person and calling them slurs, or hitting them/getting in their way IS fatphobia. But most of the time on social media, that's not what people are complaining about.

Particularly on reddit, experiences of "fatphobia in public" often recount stories of "This waiter offered my friend a free drink but didn't do the same to me" or "These clients showed me the minimum professional courtesy and then gushed over my athletic coworker all day". These types of case are not fatphobia. It's just pretty privilege. And honestly, that's fine.

Everyone deserves basic respect. But everyone doesn't deserve the exact same treatment. We are allowed to show more than basic decency to those we like, for whatever reason. That's how the real world works.