So, I inherited my grandpa’s framed military flag. Don’t want it. He was an awful, abusive person. Service or no service, in the end he was abusive and I don’t want anything of his. No other family want it either. Where can I donate it?

Also how many months of "BAH" am I entitled to after graduation? Is it 2 months and is it automatic?

Hello fellow vets, I need some help and clarification.

For context, I left a cleared contract job for a different position within the company to gain valuable skills and experience in my career. It has been over 2 years since it was last debriefed back in Feb 2024 to be exact.

I reached out to my security manager inquiring about my clearance, and they said that my SECRET clearance is still showing as ACTIVE, and they said it's up to the company/agency/government of wherever I apply to of what they want to do with it. If I was going to apply for a cleared role, how likely are they going to pick it right back up or are they going to initiate a new investigation? Given that my clearance still shows as ACTIVE.

Hi, this is kinda a throwaway account. I'm an SSG with 7.5 years in the Army Reserve, with one deployment to CENTCOM. My ETS is in March 2027, which is also the month I'm getting married.

I'm struggling with a decision right now. If I stay in, I'm guaranteed to deploy less than a year after getting married. If I get out, I can avoid putting my fiancée through another deployment, but I'd also be walking away from something I genuinely love.

I love being in the Reserves. It's always scratched my itch to serve, and my MOS is about the best damn job I could have for who I am. My fiancée of 10 years has said she wouldn't leave me if I stayed in, but that doesn't make the decision any easier.

I feel like I'm choosing between two important parts of my life: continuing to serve in a role that means so much to me or being there for my wife as we start our life together. Neither choice feels right because, either way, I'd be giving up something I love.

I guess what I'm struggling with most is figuring out how to make this decision without feeling like I'm losing a part of myself. How do you walk away from something that's always been a part of who you are, even when you know it might be the right thing to do?

Sorry for the rant. I'm just having a hard time figuring out what to do. Did getting out help you?

I was medically separated in 22, and now find myself closing my business because private reasons with a business partner and just finances. Bad economy, blah blah. Unfortunately my mil career doesn’t have a super useful civ translation and I also don’t really want to do it again because my condition. But I would IF that keeps food on my families plate. - Electronic Warfare.

I know it’s a rough market, but I have numerous certifications, a bachelors and lots of experience in high level work. Yet 1 bite in over 100 applications that I genuinely qualify for. Maybe not perfectly - but enough that I feel a conversation would make sense.

Any advice?

I’ve tried gov, private sector, big and small businesses and more.

Thanks all

Got out due to Reduction of Service in 2016. Started getting disability in 2018. I just learned yesterday that I will have to payback my separation pay. Did I slip through some kind of crack? When will I have to pay it back?

So for context I’m attending a community college and am using the Montgomery GI bill, the problem is that my classes start at different times. Some are 16 weeks long, some are 12 weeks long and some are 8 weeks long. The problem is that since they start at different times I’m not getting my full benefits which is frustrating because I’m ending up about 3/4 of my tuition out of my own money how do I fix this cause I need my tuition payed for.

Seriously weighing just walking away and letting the bank take my house. It wouldn’t be the first time I’ve lived in a car so I’m not really bothered by the idea. I figure I could maybe find a campground to stay at. Just wondering if there is a certain amount of time post foreclosure I would need to wait to get another mortgage eventually. I wish someone would hire me but I’m not optimistic at this point. I’m over 40 which unfortunately seems to make me seem less desirable for employers.

My anxiety and depression are really weighing on me on top of finances. Struggling to fall asleep, even an anti anxiety tablet didn’t fully knock it out. I just wish someone would hire me. I promise I’m too broken and defeated to care if it’s shitty. Just pretend I’m dumb teenager at this point and abuse me as long as it pays at least 15 an hour I have weed to help me cope. I can fill multiple resumes for multiple skill sets but none of that shit pays your bills.

Did 4 years active duty, got out as an E-5, and I’m still in the IRR until 2027. A couple buddies I served with have been on me for years about joining the reserves. Never really considered it until one mentioned an open billet somewhere I’d actually want to be. He makes it sound like I could stay there and ride it out until retirement. How realistic is that?
Honestly can’t believe I’m even considering it. Active duty was pretty rough. I made a lot of memories and don’t regret my time, but I didn’t really enjoy it either. Going back would have to make sense.
The biggest draw is health insurance. I’m working toward building my own business and don’t want to depend on an employer for coverage. No wife or kids right now, but I’m thinking about protecting a family down the road. The VA already takes care of me, so a lot of this is about the future. My buddy mainly does it for health care and retirement.
A few things I’m trying to understand:
I’m 80% VA disabled. My buddy says he forfeits his drill pay, but I’ve seen people say taking drill pay and waiving the corresponding VA pay makes more sense. Anyone in a similar situation? How did you figure out which to take?
I’m under BRS and still have my military TSP from active duty. Would I contribute to that same account when I come back, or would it be separate? Can I put my drill pay into it, and how does matching work when you return?
I know I’d need another 16 good years on top of my 4 active years. How is the actual retirement pay calculated under BRS with reserve points?
How does the “gray area” between retiring and collecting retirement pay at 60 work, especially for health coverage?
I’m currently using my GI Bill. Would coming back let me earn any additional GI Bill entitlement or qualify for other education benefits?
Are there any VA options for covering a future spouse and kids at 80%, or would I need a different eligibility status?
Anyone here self-employed who went back into the reserves mainly for health insurance and retirement? Was it worth the commitment, and what do you wish you’d known before going back?