r/actuallesbians • • 1d ago

Mod Post Sunday Daily Chat Thread

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Welcome to the daily chat thread! These are a a place to talk with fellow WLW (Women Loving Women) about whatever you like. The threads will show up five days a week. The two days without chat threads are Selfie Saturday and Wedding Wednesday, so save your photos for those days.

Daily threads go up at 9am EST every day and remain stickied on the front page until the next day's thread replaces it.


r/actuallesbians • • 23h ago

Mod Post Pet Photo Monday Mega Thread!

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Welcome to the Pet Photo Monday mega thread! Dogs and cats, birds and turtles. Post all of your pets here.

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How to post a picture:

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  1. Go to https://imgur.com/upload

  2. Upload your photo using that form.

  3. Copy the URL of the page it creates and paste it into a comment here.

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This thread will be posted automatically at 9am EST on Monday, and will be taken down at 9am EST on Tuesday.


r/actuallesbians • • 5h ago

Link Chinese yuri manhuas are so peak when they're uncensored

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Source: My Food Looks Very Cute

It's a super cute slice-of-life webcomic about a werewolf and a vampire.


r/actuallesbians • • 11h ago

Support Advice for pursuing trans women

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I am a cisgender lesbian and I have a crush on a trans woman.

We met through a mutual friend. I have no idea if she is attracted to cis women but I haven’t stopped thinking about her since I met her.

Every time we talk we get along great. I can tell she’s shy so I want to make sure she’s comfortable. My goal is to show her I’m interested without coming off as predatory.

We’re both going to a concert on Wednesday in a group of mutual friends and my stomach has been sick thinking about it. I really like her and I just want to do the right thing.


r/actuallesbians • • 8h ago

Image I love fictional women

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I saw another post doing this and I thought it seemed fun. 🤭

Here’s a random assortment of fictional women that I think are sooooo pretty and cool and hot and powerful and scary and incredible and-

Edit: I was asked for a list which I definitely should have provided at first 🙃

In order of appearance:

Minthara from Baldur’s Gate 3
Korra from The Legend of Korra
Toph from Avatar Aang: The Last Airbender
Mel from Arcane/League of Legends (Mostly Arcane though)
Samira from League of Legends (mostly from that splash art though)
Nemesis from Hades II
Edelgard from Fire Emblem: Three Houses
Garnet from Steven Universe
Leona from League of Legends (But mostly from this short story)
Tali from the original Mass Effect Trilogy (tragically straight though 😭)


r/actuallesbians • • 38m ago

Image Thought y’all would like this :3 Absolute Wonder Woman x Absolute Zatanna, by Marceline2174

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Zatanna is my favorite super hero, what’s yours?


r/actuallesbians • • 18h ago

Question Does this come off as a joke, or are people gonna think I’m serious?

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r/actuallesbians • • 12h ago

Image What would you think if you received this on a second date?

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Gifting this origami/craft I designed to a date. Her fav color is purple and mine is green


r/actuallesbians • • 19h ago

Satire/Humor Trying to find out more about her

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r/actuallesbians • • 21h ago

Image Me and my friends have been arguing for hours if this cast is “LGBT in this exact order” or the 4 types of lesbians and we can’t agree with eachother.

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r/actuallesbians • • 10h ago

My (29F) girlfriend (27F) made a comment about something we can’t experience together, and I can’t stop thinking about it. Am I overreacting?

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My girlfriend (27F) and I (29F) were on the phone the other day when I brought up a conversation I’d had with a friend. My friend was telling me about how she and her boyfriend were being intimate, and in the heat of the moment, they started telling each other that they wouldn’t mind having a baby together.
When I told my girlfriend this, she responded by saying that it sounded hot and that she was sad we couldn’t say things like that to each other.
I told her that technically we could, we’d just have to use our imaginations. Her response was, “Well, since it’s not real, idk, it would feel weird.”
I’m not going to lie, that comment really turned me off, and it actually made me pretty sad.
For some context, I’m the top in our relationship, and my girlfriend is very submissive and exclusively a bottom. She enjoys being strapped, and we have a pretty established sexual dynamic.
In my previous relationships with women, we’ve always been able to play into fantasies like that. I’ve had partners tell me things like “I want to carry your baby,” and other similar things during intimacy. Obviously, we both knew it wasn’t biologically possible, but that was kind of the point. It was a fantasy, and being able to use our imaginations made those moments feel intimate and exciting.
I wish I’d responded to my girlfriend by saying something along the lines of, “Just because something isn’t real doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy imagining it. Scary movies aren’t real, but people still get scared watching them.”
But honestly, I was so caught off guard and hurt in the moment that I couldn’t think of anything to say.
I think what bothered me most was that it made me feel like there was something she wanted that I couldn’t give her. It also bothered me that she seemed to immediately dismiss the idea of us sharing that fantasy simply because it couldn’t actually happen.
I’m not saying she has to enjoy the same fantasies I do, and I would never want her to say something she’s uncomfortable with. I just wish she’d been a little more open to the idea instead of focusing on the fact that it wasn’t physically possible.
Now I keep replaying the conversation in my head. It’s not even necessarily about having children. It’s more about the feeling of not being able to give my partner something she finds exciting, especially when I’ve experienced that kind of imaginative intimacy in previous relationships.
I love my girlfriend, but for some reason, that conversation really affected how I felt sexually in that moment, and I haven’t been able to shake it.
Am I overthinking this? Would something like this bother anyone else, or am I reading too much into what was probably an innocent comment?


r/actuallesbians • • 14h ago

Link Hey! I made a 3D-printable pride flag that can be used as a lesbian flag!

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This is a flag pattern that's compatible with the most used pride flags, including the lesbian flag! I feel a bit awkward posting here as a guy but I hope my design is useful for you folks! It's free and open-source and you can find it at my thingiverse if you want to print it for yourself! I'm still developing the project and I would be really glad to hear your thoughts and suggestions on how I could make my design more useful for you :D


r/actuallesbians • • 14h ago

Image Peak coming out next year!!!

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WLW manga that’s finally getting an anime adaptation. It has openly lesbian protag who is like a serial killer being used by the Japanese government to solve like other murders and stuff. There’s uh also lots to gay sex (and extreme violence)


r/actuallesbians • • 16h ago

Question What do my fictional crushes say about me? 🥺

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r/actuallesbians • • 10h ago

As a fem do we think masc women will take this as a sign to ask me out?

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Gurl plz, I’m not a rainbow flag wearing, clearly queer woman but I’m hoping this helps if not at least someone with a sense of humor 🤷🏻‍♀️


r/actuallesbians • • 4h ago

Question I saw these clips of Charli XCX in the strip club and it lowkey made me wanna go with my girls. Has anyone done that, if so how was it? And would you recommend it?

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r/actuallesbians • • 1d ago

Image i asked her to be my gf AND SHE SAID YES 😭😭

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okay so i wanted to share here BECAUSE APPARENTLY SHE'D NEVER BEEN ASKED LIKE THIS and then we both said i love you right after and i just 😭🖤🩷 idk sorry i'm emotional

for context: we're long-distance and met online, i asked on here what would be a good way to ask her to be my gf (because i really do suck at art) and a lovely person said that they made a playlist so i did that! i meant to ask her before her birthday on the 29th as she'll be with her family, and i didn’t want to bother her.

she didn't notice it at first but as soon as i explained it SHE SAID YES IMMEDIATELY then I LOVE YOU 😭😭 she was so cute and i was so stunned bro. we're 8k+ miles apart but she said it so surely on the phone too like. god. i think i realized right there that i am more than just in love with her.

i hope this can spread some courage to those who are also meaning to ask that person!! because you never know how they feel unless you communicate.

edit: i don't know how this got so many upvotes and comments but i showed it to her and we're both shocked by how sweet everyone is here. thank you guys!!


r/actuallesbians • • 59m ago

Question How much younger would you date?

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My friends are calling me crazy for not giving women more than 2 years younger than me a chance. I'm 26 jfyi.

I mean maybe because I have a baby brother 4 years younger than me that anyone his age just disgusts me in a way. I know that they are adults but in my mind they are just babies.

I know I'm making it harder for myself since I havent dated anyone in more than 4 years and I've only went on a few dates since. So I'm really limiting my already limited dating pool

How much younger would you date?


r/actuallesbians • • 13h ago

Link Hmm nice 👌

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r/actuallesbians • • 7h ago

So

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If I (F20) were to tell you I used to look up girls kissing as a child and got caught looking at lesbian corn by my junior year hs bf ….would you think I’m gay

Just checking…..

Im going through a midlife crisis / self realization rn 🫩clearly


r/actuallesbians • • 2h ago

Venting Idk even know what to put as a title for this, maybe advice needed ig?

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Hey... so I'm sorry to bother y'all. I don't really have anyone to vent out too regarding this problem.

So... let me begin by saying, me and my LDR girlfriend of 5 years just broke up. We haven't seen each other, just pure chat. We broke up in good terms, we still get to chat as friends. Long story short, am I the only one suddenly being lustful after being broken up with? Like as a very cheesy person okay?

Because here's the thing... I'm a very cheesy and corny lesbian lover. When I was single, I always make sure that when I have a girlfriend, she is the one, and that I'll save myself (my virginity) for her only. And when I met my LDR girlfriend, I told her, she is the one. And I really did, when I was with my LDR girlfriend (we both hate any concept of cheatinf), I always always remained faithful to her, and yes we keep upnwith our sex life even when we are LDR. But I was so intent on having her as my FIRST FIRST (like going inside 😭✌️✌️) like I resist to even use dildos to masturbate. I wanted to save myself purely for her only.

And yeah we broke up, suddenly i don't know what kind of psychological shit is happening to me. I began to have some kind of obsession for at least cumming more than 5x a day (I'm sorry, see I told u I cant vent this to anyone 😭)

Anyway, and whenever I finish with the dildos, I feel so fucking guilty with mtself. That I am not a virgin anymore. (Laugh at me but im serious) i don't know if anyone can relate to me. But it's just the guilt that I did not save my first "inside" with my lover. Like I wanted it to be very special and now I am obsessed with fcking myself with a dildo then cry every time I use it because of guilt. I don't know I just want it to be special that it is her who broke my hymen and now im just one obsessed sex masturbating bitch ot whatever.

Every time I finish I always cry because of 3 things, I miss my ex, I feel ashamed that I broke my promise and I keep on thinking I am no longerr a virgin anymore and that my first with someone wont be as special anymore because Ive done it with myself, and 3rd I feel like a slut. But I end up wanting more, needing the urge to still do it. I had a very very high sex drive and I think when we broke up, it became even worse and higher.

Idk, if all I said made sense. I just wanna gent it out really. Idk, fuck it.


r/actuallesbians • • 11h ago

Support cis woman dating a trans woman

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sorry if this is TMI, but im a cis woman dating a trans woman for the first time and I want to know what to expect/do/not do in terms of providing support, being a good partner to her and also during sex.

im also a stone top and she’s a bottom, so I want to know what to do in that department because we’ve spoken about being intimidate together.

going to clarify, that we are having multiple conversations about this, but also just want some broader knowledge and advice too

any help is much appreciated <33