-and I wish dating apps focused on more serious things that actually matter. I dont care what his zodiac horoscope is. I want to know his core beliefs and world views.

I don't understand why "dont talk about politics and religion" is often cited as a rule for a first date. If we are going to disagree over it, lets disagree over it on the first date and not waste each others time.

At least for me, I date to find a long term partner in life. Having compatible world views and personal morality is one of the top priorities.

So many dating apps just focus on "fun" things but I don't care if my partner has the same hobby as me, in fact it can often be better to have different hobbies. Core values and world views? Now thats what Im interested in sharing.

It would save SO much time to have more serious discussions first and get the deal breakers out of the way, then fun and flirting.

(edit: for context I just ended a 3 date long 'relationship' after asking him about religion and kids, and realized we are opposites. He kinda teased me about bringing up the serious talks but if I hadnt brought it up, we might have wasted each others time for much longer.) (I first met him in-person, not on an app.) (I'm pretty sure he just wanted to sleep with me and would have ditched me right afterwards.)

Does a 30-year age difference really matter? I’m in my late twenties, and I’ve developed feelings for a divorced man who is 30 years older than me. His youngest daughter is 17, and I genuinely like him for who he is. However, I’m not sure whether his feelings for me are still mutual. When we first started talking, he expressed interest in me and even wanted me to move in with him. I told him I would prefer to take things slowly because I wanted to get to know him better before making such a big commitment. Is it normal to feel this way, and can a relationship with such a significant age gap genuinely work?

I have liked someone who has not been available for a long time. From them I found out they have been single for about a year to a year and half.

I realized that getting out of a marriage is tough and something they may be more focused on the relationship they ended.

And they said they would get back to me about being friend and they never did.

I am female and they are male.

Would the lack of answer despite positive body language be a good indicator they are actually a no to me?

I know it is a drastic step. But as a man that has been single all my life, has no dating or romantic experience, as well as approaching my late 30s, I just feel this is the only option.

Years of putting myself out there has resulted in repeated rejection. Over the last 20 years I have tried socialising, meet up events, single events, approached women and friends trying to matchmake - well intended efforts that have resulted in the same outcome. A preference I don't fit and have no choice but to respect.

I have been told in my 20s and 30s "you'll find someone when I least expect it" - something that hasn't happened. I have been told "you miss all the shots you don't take" only for me to miss all the shots I have taken since I was 16.

Self improvement like grooming, skincare, clothing, reading books, YouTube videos, even a dating coach recently and years of therapy.

No person is entitled to a relationship but it just feels demoralising to put so much time and effort in for little results dating wise. So, I look to a military maxim that says "never reinforce failure" and think why look for love when it will never happen. Is it right to continue to focus on my hobbies and interests - accept being alone dating wise?

Been chatting with this guy (30M) that I (late-20'sF) have potential plans to meet with in a few weeks (we been talking for over a month. I usually don't wait this long but I liked talking to him). When chatting with me lately, he calls me "pookie" sometimes. And then there were a couple times where he said SUPER flirty things to me (which it was clear was a joke the first time but still, it was related to babies lmao). And then last week, I was telling him there was something he shouldn't do and he said "I like that you're trying to change me positively, literally my safe space". He's also brought up a couple times how he's going through stuff right now (the first time he said this, he said he had bad anxiety and then the 2nd time, he mentioned he grew so many gray hairs this year). I told him I hope things go easier and he messaged back saying "With you in my life, YESS". Maybe this was just him being flirty and funny, but it worries me he's coming on this strong for a bad reason. He also told me last week that I'm the first person he's wanted to meet off of Hinge and he has a good feeling about me.

We don't even call. We sent a lot of voice notes before but now we just message over on social media (we message each other QUITEE a good amount I'd say). I feel like it'd make sense for him to say these things if we called or facetimed a lot or something. I also just told him I'm having a bit of a rough day and I'll brb, and all he said was "Booo I hope it goes well, I'll be here". He didn't even ask me why my day was rough.. does it sound like he's just saying these things to fill a void and doesn't actually mean them? Or could he just be coming on too strong? I'm worried he's being emotionally unstable.

we’ve been together for almost 2 years, and we are best friends, we share hobbies and go out to do them together atleast 3-4 times a week, and sexually things are great! 4-6 times a week on the low end, so I can’t complain but there’s one thing that’s been bothering me a little

he struggles with complimenting me, in day to day and during sex, we spoke about why and he said it makes him uncomfortable and anxious, so I accepted I might not get very many and appreciated the ones I did get, and most of the ones i do get are that im cute, or i have a squishy face or something along those lines

were trying to explore more sexually and im trying to be more confident in my sexuality, we watch porn and play porn games together now, when i was staunchly anti porn in the past, so im trying to not fall into the same lines of thinking that I used to live in so im hoping you guys can help me

he will say something is hot and sexy and is open about his attraction to what we are watching and playing but the most i get out of him during the actual event is ‘you’re so tight’

im starting to wonder if its not just compliments are hard, and its just that im not as attractive or enticing

like i was jerking him off while we were playing a game and i was trying to replicate the movements and all he can do is just look at me

but when the character is peeping on someone or doing something raunchy he talks about how sexy it is

idk how to broach this or bring this up, because i am enjoying this new found openness, it just feels weird, we’ve been doing it for a month and i feel like ive heard more compliments towards the game or scenes in that time than i have our entire relationship, which most definitely is a melodramatic period driven mean thought so i figured i could ask here to get some insight on how to bring this up without making him feel bad for being open with me

Title given. And to be clear, this isn’t me trying to paint anything as racist or anywhere close, it’s all preference at the end of the day. I’m just pointing out an observation. Though I have been broken up with because my gf’s dad was actually racist.

I’m mixed (black/white) and I’m more attracted to white women, than black women. However, I think I’m personally at a disadvantage because I think that most white women just prefer white guys. Nothing inherently wrong with that. But it does make dating a bit more challenging for me. Of course there are women who are into mixed guys like me, but it seems few and far between.

If it were just me and a white dude side to side to be picked, most ppl would probably pick them instead of me. And I don’t fault anyone or anything for that, it just is what it is. Kinda killer for my self esteem though….