if this offers any help, I'm 17 and the boy I like is 16. he's the son of my aunts homegirl. a couple months ago, we got into some trouble because we planned to meet up without letting any adults know (I know, real stupid). after that day, he was told not to talk to me and I was told the same (kinda, my aunt said if we continued to talk, don't inform her about it).

I wanna try and hangout with him again but I'm trying to figure out how to go about apologizing to his mom. I tried asking my aunt, but she told me to let it go. I'm really hardheaded and I wanna at least try to see what the outcome could be. I found her facebook account but I don't know if I should text my apology or ask to meet up with her and apologize face to face :(

My girlfriend (23F) has been struggling a lot with depression lately, a lot because of university, and so have I (23F). Every time she has a setback with studying she comes to me and tells me about it (as she should) but she’s also been saying that I’m not comforting her well enough.

In which, i do have to agree. Comforting has never been my strongest thing because I’ve went my whole life not being comforted so it’s hard for me to repay that. Usually when she tells me what she’s struggling with, I respond with “i get that” “what can I do to help” you get the gist. She has told me that she wants to feel validated and listened to but I feel like I have been doing that but not to her standards, I’m guessing.

I understand what she’s going through but I don’t know what to say to her to make her feel a bit better. I know no one wants to hear constant “it’ll get better” or “you’ve got this”, it gets annoying.

Is this worth continuing our relationship? It’s been two years and I love her deeply and she does too. Are these the types of ups and downs we should power through?

TL;DR: Girlfriend says I can’t comfort her well enough and I don’t know how to

So i have been friends with this girl for about 3 years now, and I've realized that i actually like her. But the problem is not that it's what she does that kinda hurts/conflicts me. I'm gonna start it off by saying that she has no attraction to me or whatsoever, we are just frinds so she shares a lot of things to me since we are close .One thing i've noticed about her is for a girl that says she doesn't want a relationship she does follow guys on instagram and flirts with them and when confronted she straight up denies that she followed them first but she does admit that she went up and talk to them and i don't know that just kinda icked me out. She eventually stopped telling me these things because i kept judging/confronting her about it. Even yesterday when i checked her profile i found out that she had followed a guy from across the country and started talking to him. Now i don't know how to feel about this behaviour, am i icked out because i like her or her behaviour is not acceptable socially or am i just being immature. Please enlighten me.

My friend started do small amounts of crack last year, I tried to make him stop then, there was even an intervention. It has escalated significantly from there, I believe he is doing meth now, potentially even manufacturing his own meth. He is living in an abandoned house in the woods with two other men. I went to see him for the first time in 3.5 months yesterday and all three men were in extremely poor condition with open sores on their bodies, however they acted like everything was normal. They explained to me that “they were in a consenting homosexual relationship and this was the lifestyle they have chosen”. I’m really worried and I don’t know what to do, in the back you could see where a fire had taken place and burned the drywall, there is empty fire extinguisher and camp stove parts all over the floor and exposed copper wires in the walls. I understand my friend may want to choose his own path but I’m afraid he is going to die of aids or overdose. I have know him since high school and he has completely changed since last year I can’t even have a real conversation with him.

Hello everyone, I really need some advice, I (F23) am a college dropout, because I couldn't pass classes, because I was working at a small company I still work at. I feel like I have no future, and my family is kinda relying on me to be successful, they don't know I will not graduate. I have no idea what I want to do with my life, to be honest I don't want to be here, I have no motivation, and I'm under a lot of pressure. Long story short, I was abused as a kid, beaten if I said or did something wrong, but did well in school, then started working to pay for college and I did, until I couldn't wake up for classes bc I was working night shifts, until I lost every motivation if I ever had any. I thought about therapy, but it's expensive, and I'm also paying for the house and bills and all that stuff yk. I don't even know where to start, I don't know what went so wrong, I'm feeling useless and stupid and like I'm letting everyone down. My friend does know a part of it, but I still feel like crap all the time and when receiving reassurance, I feel like they are lying bc they are my friends, what else are they gonna say? Never had a boyfriend, never will have a good relationship with my family and I'm very scared, idk of what. Never been able to express my emotions or know what it is I'm feeling or why. So, please, I need you guys to be brutally honest with me.

I've turned into a liar, who lies just to make sure no one worries too much about me, so I don't have to have difficult conversations bc I'm so over it at this point. Sorry for the long post and any grammatical errors, English is not my first language and also I know I sound pathetic, but I'm being honest, and probably pathetic too idk. I always was a person who values the truth, no matter how hard it is and I want everyone to be able to come to me, if anything is wrong. But now I am lying left and right, so much so, I can't even keep track, I lie about my student status, about my income, about my life in general. I'm telling myself it's because I don't want them to worry too much, that it's easier that way, but is it? What will happen if everyone is disappointed, will I ever be able to handle it?

I can't explain everything properly I guess, there is so much more but I don't have enough words.

So, does it ever get better? As a person who has no hope and no motivation, what is the first step here?

Alright let me start by saying my roommate Andrew has been living here for about 2 years now and we’ve become pretty good friends so this is really out of the blue.

When he first moved in he was pretty quiet and kept to himself but we slowly got along and became buddies. he’s an overall normal guy, he’s sweet, funny, caring, overall just fun to be around. we have parties at the house often and he’s always the life of the party. overall super up, vibrant dude. some of my friends specifically ask for him when they come over because we know it’s a good time. in a nutshell, he’s always been a great guy until a few months ago.

All of a sudden he got super quiet and distant. i’d only see him coming to or from work and we’d exchange pleasantries then he’d go in his room for the rest of the day. when we’d have parties or people over he’d lock himself in his room, only coming out to grab food or use the bathroom. he’s always been a night owl, but he started sleeping significantly less. i’d hear him i pacing in the living room at like 3am. he started drinking like daily, he doesn’t talk to our other roommates and everyone says they barely see him anymore either. the few times we would talk, he’d have this weird look like he’s studying me or something. terrible eye contact, he’s always looking around but tries to hide it. started wearing these huge headphones like 24/7. he’s always been a music lover but now he like never takes them off. i see him wearing them when cooking, going to the bathroom, eating, even watching tv. just overall super weird behavior but i figured he might just be depressed. he’s not one to talk about his feelings so i just left him alone but this went on for months.

Then like a month ago i guess he got too wasted and smashed a few beer bottles in our neighbor’s yard and car. neighbor called the cops cause he was apparently crying and screaming at nothing and punching the tree. 6am on a Tuesday morning paramedics are knocking on my door telling me the story. Andrew looked like hell. bloody hands and shirt with this like empty look in his eyes and just kept saying i’m sorry. i’d never seen him like this and the cop said the neighbor wouldn’t press charges for the damage but paramedics want to take him in cause he’s having a mental health crisis. he like begged to just stay home and i felt bad so i said i’d take care of him and after a bit of back and forth they let him go. i asked him wtf he was doing and he just didn’t reply and cried on my shoulder for a bit then walked to his room without saying a word.

At this point, i knew something was definitely wrong and was worried he’d hurt himself again so the next morning we finally talked and he told me he has no idea what’s going on, that he’s been hearing voices and seeing things and having bad thoughts and doesn’t want to be around people because he’s scared he’ll lose it. i could tell the toll it’s taking on him so i promised i wouldn’t tell anyone and that we should hang more because i mean isolating himself can’t be helping.

Since that night though, i feel like it’s gotten worse. he’s more active and actually talks which is great, but he’s way more paranoid. he bought blackout curtains for damn near all the windows in the house, he’s barely sleeping because “they attack him in his dreams”. he refuses to elaborate when i ask who is “they”. he can barely focus in conversations cause he’s constantly looking around or like stopping abruptly almost like he’s listening to someone else. he always seems like he’s trying to figure something out, he’ll stare at me suspiciously mid convo like idk i guess like he doesn’t trust me or something?

I was able to get him to a psychiatrist a few weeks ago and we got the official diagnosis and she prescribed him 2 meds. the first few days he seemed calmer, more active, overall happier, almost like before. then after maybe a week he stopped taking them because they make him shake which i looked up and it’s a common side effect. i tried to get him to take them again because obviously they’re working besides a little tremor but he refuses and only takes one of the meds prescribed because i guess it helps him sleep better.

2 nights ago, we had a little kickback at the house and he seemed on edge the whole time but i didn’t say anything because i mean he seemed stressed enough. towards the end of the night, people started leaving and we went inside. im not sure if he just drank too much but it’s like he switched. he had this like dead look in his eyes and pushed me. he kept saying things like “you don’t trust me” “you think i’m dangerous” “you don’t really want me here” “you think i’m gonna hurt you”, etc. i and our other friend tried to talk him down and reassure him none of that was true but he seemed almost mad. after a while he stopped and just kept apologizing. i took him to his room and he passed out.

We haven’t really had a chance to talk since, but idk the whole situation kinda freaks me out. i know it’s common for schizophrenics to refuse meds and i mean i don’t want to force him but he obviously needs them and he’s not controlling it as well as he thinks. i don’t actually think he’s dangerous or that he’d actually hurt me or anyone else but i have no idea how to support him thru this and i don’t want it to worsen. it’s taking such a huge mental toll on him and it’s sad to see how much he’s changed in just a few months. most of the time he’s still nice and sweet but those moments when he gets like that kinda freak me out. i don’t want to make him feel any worse then he already does, i really care about him and want him to get better but i have no idea how to approach this. thanks in advance for any advice🙏

I noticed that I tend to stick around people even if I don’t like them. It’s partially because I’m lonely, but also because I don’t start disliking people until months after the friendship has formed. I spend time thinking I’m getting to know them, only to not like them. How do I stop staying in friendships and relationships I don’t like? It’s hard because I established 1 on 1 connections that are supposedly deep. How do I maintain authenticity? How do I prevent this fakeness?

I don't know how to explain this in an appropriate way but I'll try my best.

My boyfriend has this one friend he's had for many years and I appreciate him as a friend and he's nice to me and everything, but there's a type of "joke" he makes that makes me sick in the stomach.

Whenever my cat or dog (both females) appear in a conversation or when I take my dog for a walk and see him (he works at a bar next to my house) he will jokingly say that he's gonna f* them and many other inappropriate comments that are only "jokes". He will ask me (again, as a "joke") "Can I f- her?" And things like that. He gets like into a loop and won't stop, it's not just one comment, they're like 10 in 15 minutes.

There have been different situations like the ones I described but you can understand what I'm talking about.

Both my bf and I have told him that these jokes are disgusting but he won't take our complaints seriously since we complain in a polite way, if you know what I mean. He's just like 😀 like when you make a joke (a real one) and the other person's reaction is funny to you.

What would you do? My bf said he will talk to him but honestly I think it's a reason to stay away from that man since I find it extremely creepy and disgusting. They're not very very close so, it wouldn't affect my bf's life that much.

Thanks for reading and I'm sorry for the topic.

Edit: grammar

its not like a "yea im just so numb" type of thing, but i literally dont care for anything or want to do anything anymore, i dont wanna talk to people, i dont wanna go to school, i dont want to do anything, i dont see a future that i want to fight for because i dont see a future at all, i dont truly think about the next day because i dont know if i even want it to come

I really just wish i didnt feel this way because i genuinely dont know whats even wrong, i dont even feel like an actual person unless im with someone else, i really just wanna go home which is weird because im writing this while at home???

if anyone has ever felt like this please tell me how to fix it.

Im sick of my roommates boyfriend. I’m a freshman in college (18f) and in the beginning of the school year we were in a friend group of five people but eventually one of them broke off so there’s four of us now. About two months ago my roommate and our mutual friend started dating. Now, she just came out of a very abusive and toxic relationship that had recently gone to jail for harassing her, so I was worried about her rushing into another relationship. I knew this guy from high school and me and my suite mates (who all went to high school together) talked about him and his past with disrespecting women. She must have noticed there was some tension with him after they started dating so she asked me what’s wrong. I told her everything we’ve heard about him and how she should ask him about it. She agreed and their conversation it must have been well because nothing changed, she wasn’t upset about anything, so I assumed it went well. The first time he stayed in our room it was supposed to be the three of us watching a movie together but about 30 minutes in they started getting very cuddly and I felt weird sitting next to them. He stayed that night until 1am and they even woke me up asking if I can drive him back to his dorm and I turned around and ignored them. The next day he asked me if her was over too lat and I said yes and asked if he could leave at 10 or 11 from now on. He agreed and said that was reasonable. Now, neither of them have cars so they really only ask me or our other friend to hang out so we can drive somewhere and the two split off and leave us. I stopped hanging out with the two of them after we went to an arcade, we agreed to do about an hour of unlimited games, and me and our other friend had to play alone bc they just wanted to be together. I brushed it off because its the beginning or their relationship and I know they want to be all over each other right now. But, he’s started to become really comfortable with staying in our dorm room and its started to piss me off. You know when you see someone so much without break they start to irritate you? It’s like that. She checks him into our room every mooring around 8/9 am and checks out at around 11 pm every single day, he walks her to every class and waits outside for her. With him leaving so late all the time he even makes our other friend drive him to his dorm every night because he leaves so late and I feel like they just use us. They only do activities together, they don’t eat alone, go to the gym alone, or even take naps alone. I hate that I go into my room and I know he’s going to always be there. And because we were friends before they started dating every once in a while he will make jabs at me but say things like I nap in the dorm too much, my hair sheds every where and it annoys him, he even complains about my desk being messy because ehe wants to put his tv and xbox there. He’s also just gross, he farts constantly and the two of them think its so hilarious, he’s so giant that when he sits his pants and shirt spread apart and he has his asscrack out all the time, and when he stands he takes up all the free space in the room and will bump into every thing (he’s about 6’4 and over 300 lbs football player). I just get so irritated seeing him so often and I’ve started to hate him, what can I do?

hi all,
my husband and i (26F, 24M) decided to start “trying” for our second baby last night. we are finally in the process of closing on our first house and are looking forward to this next chapter in our lives!! here’s the thing - our son was conceived 2 weeks into our marriage on a failed plan b, so we know we are fertile and honestly im not seeing us having to try multiple times lol. it is a blessing, and i feel truly lucky. i am wondering how i tell my long distance best friend (26F) because she and her husband have been trying to conceive since may with no luck. she told me in the past that if i get pregnant before her she will only be happy for me and will not hold any grievance against me. we have been friends for 11 years, and she even came to help the first couple weeks when i had my son. i struggle with sensitive topics (as does she, she is diagnosed autistic and i suspect i may be too but never looked into it). still, i dont want to say the wrong thing or hurt her in any way. so i would just like some advice from strangers who may have gone through something similar. thank you!!

I’m f21 and she is f25

As of recently my girlfriend started university, she lives a bit far away from me, but we always see each other during the weekends, and recently she told me about this girl who acts very weirdly around her:

she stares at her constantly, sits beside her, or close to her, waits for her to come out of the classroom at a distance, walks slowly just so she can catch up to my gf, and once my gf is close she starts picking up the pace as well so they can walk together. In all of this, she doesn’t say a word to her, she maybe says hi sometimes but not much else.

My gf has been noticing this behavior a lot, and it happens every day, at first i just thought she was maybe looking at it the wrong way, but after coming to her uni with her, and met her, i understand completely her discomfort as she started having this behavior with me too upon discovering she was my girlfriend.

I suggested my gf to maybe confront her about it, talk to her about how her behavior makes her feel uncomfortable, but she doesn’t feel like doing that as she thinks it might hurt her feelings, and in general she has expressed that she wants nothing to do with her because of her creepy behavior, which i understand, what i’m not fine with is that because this behavior coming from the girl, my girlfriend is basically always uncomfortable in uni, i’d like to help her but i really do not know what to do.

Now, she may just be terrible at socializing and just wants to make some new friends as, afaik, she is pretty alone in uni, whats weird to me is that she only behaves like this with my gf and no one else.

On top of this, my girlfriend is transgender, which is why i’m really scared about the possibility of this girl, wanting to physically hurt my girlfriend. Trans people have been overly demonized by the media, and politicians, and every day i hear more and more about trans people getting hurt, and even worse sometimes, and i don’t wanna lose her for any reason. My gf can do whatever she wants, she can break up with me, she can cut contact, ect, but as long as she is fine and well, that’s all that matters to me. I trust her, and if anything i’m happy if she makes a new friend, hell im fine if she wants to break up to be with her, all i care about is her safety, i just want to make sure this girl doesn’t wanna hurt her without making a mess.

am i being too paranoid? How should i go about this?

Im really scared right now, i feel horribly anxious. Im going to school right now and they are definitely gonna make a huge scene when i return. They are really strict- I need to figure out an excuse. what do i do?

As the title says. My (23F) coworker (20M) slapped me really hard on the back unprompted the other day.

This is not the first incident with him, and I’m relatively sure I’ve tried EVERYTHING to make him stop. He’s relatively well known for trying to rage bait other people and myself (like saying your name, then when you turn and ask what he wants/needs he pretends he never said anything) and there have been repeated incidents where I have asked him to stop doing something and he refused.

One day when I was newer he repeatedly called me the N word (I’m white, he’s not, but he’s not black/African American either) and I explained I don’t like being called that, calmly asked him to stop, and he kept doing it until another coworker (male) told him to.

He’s repeatedly flicked/pinched me and other coworkers, one of those coworkers literally becoming so fed up with it after asking him repeatedly to stop (calmly several times, all the way until she was shouting “Stop!” At him) and he would just laugh about it.

There are several incidents, but the most recent one was my breaking point. A month or so ago he kept flicking me, and I asked him to stop, yelled at him to stop, and got to the point I was hitting him with an empty Togo box (not my best moment) and he just laughed. A few days ago, he randomly slapped me on the upper back really hard. I had a red mark when I went to the bathroom and looked in the mirror.

I went up to him and, very calmly, said it HURT and told him I didn’t want him to do it again. He proceeded to get defensive and said “it didn’t hurt, you’re just a pussy woman, stop being a pussy about it, it didn’t hurt!” And so on and so forth.

Several other coworkers have spoken with me about how they don’t appreciate the way he talks to them (all female) and treats them and other women. I mentioned I was just about ready to go to our main boss and tell him what happened, or if I didn’t, punch him the next time he did something (I wouldn’t, as I need my job, but god is it tempting). She said I should tell our boss.

So, I told our boss. He was very professional about it, said that I was right and that he should not be doing that at all, but that he 100% should have stopped when I told him to. Our boss also said if after he has a talk with my coworker (where no names would be said as to who reported him) gave me any sort of retaliation, to tell him immediately.

The rest of the day (said coworker came to work after I had this conversation with our boss) my coworker didn’t act unusual, and I assume the conversation hadn’t been had yet. The next day, still no strange behavior.

Today? He refused to speak with me at all. No hello (I didn’t notice til later when I thought about it that I was one of the only ones he pointedly didn’t say hi to), and when trying to see if I was still on the floor he looked at our other male coworker and asked him to ask me if I was still on the clock or not.

I was literally a foot in front of him sitting down at a table.

Both me and our other coworker looked at him funny and I asked why he wouldn’t ask me himself. He said he “doesn’t talk to snitches”.

Throughout the shift, he would say snitch whenever he passed me and refused to speak to me otherwise. He literally stood in one of the rooms we use for work five feet away from me singing “S-N-I-T-C-H! Snitch Snitch Snitch!” Over and over again.

At one point, I was trying to put ice in a cup, he was standing in front of the drink machine. I opened the ice bin, reached for the ice scoop, and he took it before I could and placed a single ice cub in his cup, tapped the rim, put it back where it goes, and closed the ice bin I just opened. I was literally standing next to him.

Also, pretty sure he asked another of our coworkers if she was who snitched on him, and when she denied it (I know our boss did not say my name) he sounded like he was talking to her about how it was definitely me. I was standing several feet away, so I don’t want to definitively say that is what occurred.

My friends and one of my coworkers who I’ve told this all to say that I should say something to our boss again about this, considering they think it is retaliation. I don’t know if it’s worth risking the situation getting worse. He’s been there longer than I have, and I won’t deny that he’s good at his job. He is friends with a few of our other coworkers, but I know a lot of them are also tired of his crap.

Should I say something again? Should I just wait for it to blow over? I’ve never had a situation so bad that I’ve gone to management to complain before.

My partner has COPD, has 24 hour a day oxygen, and has battled lung cancer which is okay for now. My partner is angry with me constantly and says it's my fault because I won't buy them smokes. There doctor and everyone that knows them doesn't want them to smoke. But I'm the one who has to put up with constant nastiness from them because I refuse to buy smokes for them. I love my partner but this is killing me. I want us to be happy but it's not going to happen unless I buy them smokes which I won't. So my life is not good. I just don't know what to do. It's really hard on me and I get depressed. I just want to be happy and my partner makes it difficult. My partner has schizophrenia. The reason I said they and them was so hopefully I'm not giving away who we are.

Hello Reddit! I (16F) am a senior in high school. My best friend (16F) is also a senior, and we have been best friends since first grade. This university application process has been really stressful for us both.

My family is really involved in my applications, which I appreciate. They told me to keep everything we applied for, all our information and processes, a secret from my friends and classmates. At the start of the year, and for all of tenth/eleventh grade, I already did not enjoy talking about university, so this was easy for me to do. My parents said to keep it a secret so I do not spark potential jealousy or harm towards me.

However, as senior year began and went on, I realized many of my classmates began chatting about university. Honestly, I wanted to be a part of the conversation too, because I thought it could relieve some stress from the entire application process. My friends are competitive and academic, but they are also really kind and caring. Although I did not oftentimes initiate any university-related conversations with any friends, I still enjoyed listening to them talk about it, and would ask the occasional question (in the past, whenever the topic of university was brought up, I would completely shut down). I thought it was nice I found support from my friends talking about applications, and I began thinking my parents were overreacting just a bit about people harming me or something.

Many of my friends (including my best friend) did not tell me about their applications directly in tenth/eleventh grade. I'd just hear from them about it sometimes when they happen to be talking about it with others. At first, I was kind of upset, since it felt like I was being left out. Then, I calmed down and realized that it's their stuff, they can choose who they talk to it about, and also because of how unreceptive and annoyed when I heard about university, they understandably did not want to talk to me about it. Now that I am more open to the topic, I have noticed my friends talk about it to me too. I also thought back to what my parents told me about keeping it a secret, and realized many of my friends were probably just doing that too.

I made a tiny mistake on one of my applications. So tiny it will not impact anything. I told my best friend about it. Obviously I enjoy telling her about my day and things that happen to me. I told her about it, since I now feel better about talking about university. It was a pretty normal conversation between two friends.

On Tiktok, I saw a girl saying her life improved after she acted like everyone around her was wearing a wire, not telling anyone about anything unless it benefitted her. I honestly do keep to myself a lot, and although I have many friends, I think I only have 5 close friends I tell a lot about myself to. After seeing this, I just thought back to my parents' words, and I felt like I messed up with telling my best friend about my application, especially since it was regarding a mistake I made. I know she will not do anything malicious to me, but I don't know. I know this does not matter at all, but I just need some advice. How should I conquer these feelings and proceed? Thank you! Anything is helpful.

I went on a date with a girl I really like and she was the one who asked me out. She traveled over 2 hours by train to see me, and we spent around 4 hours together. Afterward, she said she had a good time, but I was usually the one initiating conversations after the date. I didn't know if it was because of me or because her semester started right after our first date.

When I asked about her not initiating, she told me:

“i like talking to u but ig more in a friendly way im not looking for anything in relationship wise bcs as i said im new in this school and im honestly very busy”

She also said she’d like to see me again when the weather is nicer and during her semester break. I truly have never liked anyone like this before, and I just hope I still have a chance. Ofc I don't want to focus on her rn, but rather keep her in the back of my mind.

I'm also scared that I somehow messed up my only chance with her during our first date. Maybe I was too friendly and didn't flirt enough, and now I keep wondering whether things could have turned out differently if I'd acted differently.

I know she wants to keep things friendly right now, but do you think there's still a chance her feelings could change in the future?

basically as the title says. it’s happened 3 weekends in a row now, my bf and i will make plans, and then all of the sudden a few days before it he’ll be like “oh well so-and-so is coming up (bc most of them moved for college) and all of the guys will be there and blah blah blah”. bc i dont want to be like controlling or anything i say sure just do it but it still bums me out, especially bc hes the only person that ever hangs out with me. on that note it also feels like hes only in it for the sex a bit, but i cant rlly tell. idk i just want opinions, idk how to go abt this :(

like should i tell him how it makes me feel & how it looks from my pov?? bc i dont want to seem like a crybaby either so idk

Hi, I'm 18F and am a freshman at college. I live around 2 hours from home, and am feeling really isolated despite being on a big campus. For context, I'm pretty quiet and never made a ton of friends throughout school which I didn't mind for the most part. However, now that I don't have my family, I don't really have anyone to talk to. I still talk to my family on the phone everyday, but am unable to do activities with them.

Anyways, I've tried a bunch of different things to try and make friends like joining clubs, school events, and online apps, but none of them seemed to work. I even have a random roommate who I tried to be sociable with, but now we never talk. Right now I've been coping with YouTube, movies, tv shows, and fan art.

As for school itself, I am extremely lucky as my dorm is pretty nice and super close to all my classes. My school also has a great program and gives great opportunities for my major: XMD and film (both pre majors). My classes are going okay for the most part too. The only thing that is really making me struggle is the isolation, and i'm honestly not sure if I can make it through college and am considering transferring or dropping out.

Any advice is appreciated!

Hi there. I'm 27, I got no experience when it comes to dating. I get no chances, I asked people out and it always was a no. What are you doing when you're unattractive? There are multiple people who told me I'm the nicest person they know. Friendly, supportive and a great listener. But that sadly doesn't mean much in this world. Imagine being so ugly that people have recommended you facial surgery. People have begged me to delete them, then they found out what I looked like. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I'm so tired of all of that. I don't know what to about it. It's been now so many years of trying for nothing. Just for getting hurt over and over again.

A little over three years ago I ended a friendship and now I live in constant regret.

A little background information: we had been close friends for three years and definitely became co-dependent. It all came to a head when she took me to a party and got belligerently drunk and the lines between us intentionally (from her side) became blurred. After we got back from the party I packed up my things, left her apartment, and told her I had no interest in remaining friends. A big reason that led to this is she had a serious drinking problem, I had left an abusive relationship with an alcoholic a year prior to our falling out and I had started seeing a lot of patterns between them. This falling out led to mutual friends picking sides, it got incredibly messy. It was quite explosive and we were just in very different and difficult times in our lives.

A lot has changed in me and my life but no matter what I cannot stop thinking about her, I miss our friendship everyday. From what I have heard a lot has changed in her life as well. She no longer drinks, she's in a stable living situation, and has a partner who cares about her. A complete 180 from when we were friends.

Two years ago I reached out to her saying how I missed her and that I wish we could speak but all she did was read it, she never responded. I never followed up because I didn't want to be overbearing. We have a mutual friend who informed me that she still has a lot of pictures of us together on her Instagram, she hasn't blocked me either.

Am I foolish to believe there is still hope? Am I going to regret reaching out again? Or not reaching out at all?

I have no clue if this friendship is still salvageable, I don't know if it is possible. It would take a lot of work from both of us if it is. We both intentionally hurt each other pretty badly.

I just miss her so much, we had so much in common and I have never had a friend I've been so close and vulnerable with. I've sought out other friendships but nothing compares.

Hi everyone! We have a program called rocket football for our young children who want to dabble in and learn the sport. This program is specifically for that, to teach the kids, get them ready, and help them decide whether or not this is a sport they’d like to play in high school(all while learning how to play!)
I signed my son up for the first time this year (he’s in 6th grade), and although he was behind so were a couple other of the players. We were all assured that each kId REGARDLESS of experience would get equal playing time.
This turned out to not be the case for my son, he sat the sidelines every single game except for 1. I’ll note that he was at every practice and played his little freaking heart out.
He sat and watched, begged his coach to play, and consistently was pushed off. All while the coached kid played as much as humanly possible (it was also their kids first year playing so experience don’t mean sh*t here)
I think what bothered me the most was how defeated my son was after every game, crying and not understanding why he wasn’t played.
When he’d ask his coach at practices he would be told “ohh I didn’t realize you weren’t, I’ll get you next time” and then he’d be glossed over once again at the next game.
Here’s where I need advice. I’ve heavily contemplated writing a complaint about his coach and my son’s experience to the board. I paid a lot of money and had an extremely excited kid to not even get to see him play at all except that ONE game.
Would I be a Karen in this scenario? Is it silly? I just don’t want other kids to experience this in the years after OR be stuck with the same coach again next year…
Thank you !!

TLDR; son played football for the first time and was sidelined the entire season, all but one game. Coach ignored sons concerns, wants to know if writing a complaint is “Karenish”

I'm in a tough situation with my dad's investments and need some perspective.

I’ll give some context here: my dads (54) a big conspiracy theorist who believes the media is full of fake news, gold and silver's price is being artificially suppressed by the deep state and the world is inevitably returning to a gold/silver standard, governments will not be able to pay off their debts and that fiat currency is just a lie, and it’s not safe to put money in banks as they will just stop people from withdrawing if a crisis occurs.

Back in 2019/20, he’d put all of the family savings (\~100k) into physical silver and gold and saw it peak back in January. He believed that the time has finally come and decided to buy more of it tho he did not have the funds to do so. At the time we were buying a second property and took out a remortgage of our home to finance it, we got a good deal with the rate capped at 2% (employee benefit) so I suggested to take out the max amount. We got 250k while we only needed 170 so there was 80 that we can invest.

My original plan was to put it into VT or just bonds if my parents are feeling more risk adverse, but my dad completely distrusts stocks and views it as complete speculation as he believe companies can just lie on their balance sheet. So he insisted that he’ll use them all to buy silver as he was certain there’s a massive deficit of it and soon there won’t even be a chance to get one because of its scarcity.

I kept trying to reason with him but he wouldn’t listen, at the end I managed to strike a compromise with him, and at the end he got 55k into silver at 105/oz (was actually \~120 as the trader took a 15% premium), and the remaining 25k into VT. Literally a day after he bought it came crashing down and to that he just said these things happens and he’s in it for the long run.

For a while we’ve left the topic aside but it’s been brought up again recently as he’s getting a 250k inheritance. He told us that he is planning to put all or at least half of it into silver coins. I got into an argument with him again but it just went nowhere, as he sees himself as being safe with money as gold/silver are the only true assets, and that I’m the one taking risk when I’m putting money into the stock/bond market.

Has anyone dealt with a parent with this kind of extreme anti-fiat mindset? How do I protect the remaining family funds and get him to compromise on putting the inheritance into actual income-generating assets without starting a huge fight?

Tldr: My anti-fiat/conspiracy theorist dad previously used $55k from a home remortgage to buy physical silver near the peak ($105/oz) right before it crashed. Now he’s receiving a $250k inheritance and plans to dump at least half or all of it into physical silver coins because he believes paper assets are a scam. Is there anything I can do to convince him not to?

Extra context : this is also about where our future investments are going, as he’s planning to add to the position with future paychecks. I’m saying we cause he’s planning to pay for it with the family fund, which me and my parents are all contributing towards monthly

Extra context 2: Okay just to be clear the mortgage is only 30% of the home value, it’s got a low interest rate (variable but capped at 2%) and it will be paid off in 7 years so there’s a very low risk of us losing the house. I’m saying us cause the we as a family are managing all our funds as one entity, so I’m also responsible for paying off that debt too. Aside of this I’m also putting a chunk of my paycheque into index funds every month so we are not at risk of financial ruin

I smoked weed every day between the ages of 16 and 18, and it is my biggest regret. Currently I’m working through chemistry and calculus courses in college and I’m really struggling! Getting solid Bs in stuff but still have lots of trouble understanding. I feel very stupid and cloudy all the time. I’m wondering if anyone has any similar experience? Should I just give up? Anyone who has gone through this and can speak also just about general life stuff and uplifting advice (hopefully)?

My friend has made me feel shitty because of her comments pretty much right when we became friends. We’ve only been friends for a few months now, but I’ve been contemplating if this friendship is truly worth it, or if I’m just an asshole because I feel this way. Basically she makes harsh jokes about me and my struggles, she’s also passive-aggressive and kind of manipulative. I won’t get into all that now, but on top of all that, there’s one thing that really did it for me. The day after my grandmother passed away she made a comment, or joke? Or whatever tf it was she knew my grandma had passed. She picked me up to hangout and the first thing she said was “my mom keeps asking how your grandma is doing” I paused for a second kind of baffled but said “she’s dead” and she makes a silly face and laughs awkwardly. I felt so weirded out by it but we continued to hang out, she dropped me off and brought it up again saying “I don’t know why my mom keeps asking me if your grandma is okay” and proceeded to say “I keep telling her she’s dead” which really made me mad because what’s wrong with the both of you is what I’m thinking. Either way after she said that I just ignored her and told her bye. I instantly started contemplating if I even liked her anymore after that, I mean it wasn’t even 24 hours after I just watched my grandma die in the hospital and she knew that. I took space from her and have been thinking about it ever since, although recently we hung out and I had fun, but of course she made “jokes” and comments that made me upset and feel worthless. I love her and we have good times, so I’ve been writing it off as me just being hateful and insecure. it’s probably super immature but I don’t know I think about this everyday and I’ve felt so tempted to block her and never see her again. Anyway, If I could get some advice that’d be every appreciated.

P.S. I did confront her about the grandma thing and she apologized explaining she was just stating her mom made her annoyed bc she kept asking and she had told her she was dead, and that she wasn’t joking and she understands how it was rude, but idk it’s just that on top of everything and it’s just why would she even bring it up. It gives off that she genuinely doesn’t care about my feelings and I just want friends who aren’t mean and care about how they make me feel.